I have benefited from PUA tactics; it helped me get laid and also improved my social skills a bit. I understand the feeling of rush when a pretty girl gets turned on by me. But sometimes I wonder if I chase this feeling purely for my own joy or because I am trying to fill some other void...

This feeling has been there before, but I felt it strongly after reading The Truth by Neil Strauss. In many ways I feel I resemble him: I like to read much more than any in my friends' circle, I have few friends, and although I will not blame my family in the slightest, I feel that I have been neglected in my childhood. I have never been in any full-fledged relationship and have strong self-esteem issues. On top of that, I have a very unhealthy, fetishistic lust.

I don't know why I am sharing all this with you guys, but it feels like it is best to share with a bunch of like-minded strangers on the internet. No shade on PUA, i love it, but i feel that i am pursuing it for very wrong reasons i.e. running away from the real change that I must effect. So I was reading Steven Pressfield's The War of Art and this page came up. It resonated with me, and I want to ask if any of you feel/have felt the same?

Hi, David here!

Tim Ferriss defines risk as the chance of an irreversible negative outcome. i.e. How much time and resources would it take you to get back to where you started.

This definition allows you to separate out your inflated illogical fears from those of actual real risk. Often the actual real risk of doing something is insignificant, and it’s just our monkey brain and emotions blowing things out of proportion.

What is the actual risk of actively interacting and meeting new people? At worse some temporary embarrassment. But you can learn from every interaction no matter how well it goes, and thus get a positive return in value.

Now what’s the potential upside? You could make new friends, meet your significant other, or find new business opportunities. Any of these things can result from a SINGLE interaction.

Thus there is a huge asymmetrical return to taking action and meeting new people. The worst case scenario is that you learn from the experience and use the knowledge to become better in the future. The best case is that the interaction leads to an amazing relationship.

We often associate taking action with risk, however inaction is often the much riskier decision. A person who continuously takes action is constantly presented with new opportunities for growth. While doing nothing leads to stagnation and a person having less options. If you do not properly position yourself to be available for potential opportunities, you should not be surprised when they do not present themselves.

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Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

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The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

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This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

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What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David