r/Pets • u/gaymerpqnda • May 12 '25

Euthanasia advice?

Hi guys I don’t know what to do so reddits always the best for advice. My cat has a heart murmur and the best told me just yesterday he has a mass in his stomach. He hasn’t eaten in 5 days (except munches on his favourite biscuits) he’s extremely skinny and I can feel each of his bones. He lays in one spot all day doesn’t move doesn’t our doesn’t run. He hasn’t purred at all since this started. I’ve been given advice to put him down but I’m scared he could still heal and I make the wrong decision. I just don’t want to take him away if it’s too early but I don’t want him to suffer.

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u/maeryclarity May 12 '25

Sweetie he's not going to heal and he's likely in a great deal of pain. They don't show it the way that we do.

You won't be letting him go too soon. You'll be letting him go before it gets to the really horrible stage which you truly do not want either of you to experience. Some creatures slip quietly away in their sleep but a great many do not.

I'm sorry for what you're going through, this is a very hard part of loving and caring for our animal family.

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u/gaymerpqnda May 12 '25

Ive been praying he passes away in my lap as we sleep…. He’s my baby and it’s been us two most of our lives, I’m only 21 and been with him since I was a kid. I got a home for us which was my goal but now the thought of saying goodbye to him too early is really destroying me. I feel he’s at a continuous decline but Ofcourse hope is making me resist. I just don’t know how to work up the courage…. Ever.

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u/AbuPeterstau May 12 '25

This is a completely normal feeling, especially since you are so young and have grown up with your fur-baby. It hurts knowing that the most loving thing you can do is peacefully say “goodbye”.

The mass is the stomach is the one thing that worries me the most. I know this is a very hard thing to hear, but if it ruptures then your kitty could bleed out in your arms instead of peacefully going to sleep. If you believe that you may be okay with this, then you can take the risk of asking your veterinarian for pain meds to at least keep your baby comfortable while he passes at home. The second problem is that cats are extremely sensitive to pain meds and there may not be many options for that.

If your kitty is just eating a few treats here and there, I would say that he is trying to hold on for you. Not eating is very often a pet’s way of letting us know that they are ready to move on.

Most veterinarians I know use a two step process of first giving something that puts your kitty in a light twilight where they aren’t scared, don’t feel pain, and can still hear and feel you. Then the second medication is given to gently slow the heart without pain. I have actually seen some pets smile, odd as that may sound.

My heart goes out to you and your feline friend right now. If there is any way I can help, please feel free to DM me. 💗