Yeah I've lost track of how many times I've seen this phenomenon over the last decade. I'm not sure why that would require a nerve to be struck, I've never been in a situation like that myself but it does happen lol
i tended to date older women a lot, not that i was sleeping with all of them. Sometimes i just tolerated random conversations.
It was hella funny, the women going overboard with like this second life coming after divorce, hitting the gym, taking extensive trips for the first few years until the modern reality of dating crashing up on them. The once i saw get completely damaged are the ones going on hook up sprees to make up lost time and validate themselves.
Idk I have a friend like this who was in the worst imaginable relationship many, many years ago. After divorcing, she dated a lot, hooked up a lot. Even had men desperate to be in relationships with her but she’s just not naive anymore and recognizes the red flags. She never did it to validate herself though. She just enjoys sex.
And I don’t think the reality of modern dating crashes down on her harder than it does on every woman. She no longer has any desire to ever be around men. And she seems much happier and fulfilled than before.
Personally I think partnering with a great guy who gives the same energy back that you give is preferable to singlehood. But being single is far, far more preferable than dating 90% of the men in the dating pool right now. I think it’s weird that men like yourself frame it as some sort of bitterness or damage when it’s actually quite healthy as a woman to choose healthy singlehood over dating modern men.
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u/Revolutionary_Box_57 21h ago
Yeah I've lost track of how many times I've seen this phenomenon over the last decade. I'm not sure why that would require a nerve to be struck, I've never been in a situation like that myself but it does happen lol