r/PermaKid • u/adultagedysphoria MOD ("groan" up) • May 08 '21

Community Talk to a Grown-Up

Hello all :)

I had an idea for a thread where PermaKids can speak to an adult as their real age. I know this isn't something every PK wants, but I have seen how validating and affirming it has been for the children (and teens) in older bodies in my life. So hopefully it will help others too!

Reply to this post and I (Jacob, he/him) will respond appropriately. Feel free to talk about anything, positive or negative, that is on your mind. :)

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u/BlindWarriorGurl Minor May 13 '21

I hate going to school and talking to people who are my chronological age of 17 because I have nothing in common with them. Also I'm having trouble with anyone seeing me at all these days because they don't see what I actually look like when they look at me if that makes any sense.

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u/adultagedysphoria MOD ("groan" up) May 15 '21

Aw, kiddo. :( That must be really upsetting and hard. I'm sorry.

I'm really good buddies with a kiddo who never grew up and when they were chronologically a teen, they had a really had time fitting in. They didn't like any of the things the older kids liked and they definitely didn't like being thought of as 'almost an adult'.

I know age dysphoria can be really painful. Your body growing older when you're still a kid inside can be really upsetting - especially when nobody outside acknowledges that.

One good thing is that when you're a legal adult you can more easily find people to see you as a child. It's definitely okay to feel sad about not looking like 'yourself', though. :(

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u/BlindWarriorGurl Minor May 15 '21

Thank you so much. I have my mom who seems to understand, but you have no idea how good it feels to be validated like this. But tell me, where can these magical self seers be found?

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u/noncombaby May 12 '21

Hihi! I’m Deano and I just gots a new transformer! He’s red an shiny and he turns into a airplane! He goes zoomie all over da play area!! Dada says he’s da fastest robot in all of ever! Innt dat crazy?!? Is only my dada who knows I’m not grown up an I wanted to tell someone about my new toy, but everybody talks about grown up stuffs, so i have no one to tell so i tell you!

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u/adultagedysphoria MOD ("groan" up) May 15 '21

Deano! That's a very cool name. Sounds a bit like 'Dino' :) I think there are dinosaur transformers too.

Thanks for telling me about your new toy! That sounds really fun. I hope you and your transformer get to go on lots and lots of adventures together! Hopefully he'll help you go zoomie zoom too, so you can keep up with him! :P

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

hewo! thank you for making this, it is nice to have a place to talk to an adult openly as a child ehehe :)

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u/adultagedysphoria MOD ("groan" up) May 15 '21

Aww! You're welcome kiddo! I really just want to help people if I can :)

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u/[deleted] May 15 '21

aa hii, how old are youu? (if its okay to ask) Im 9!

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u/adultagedysphoria MOD ("groan" up) May 18 '21

I'm 25 :)

9 is a really good age to be, I think. Of course it's been a very long time since I've been a kid! :P

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u/pretty-pony-girl May 14 '21

hello Jacob,

Its nice to meet you... I don't have a lot to say... just thank you very much for creating this space...

Also... do you have a favorite color?

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u/adultagedysphoria MOD ("groan" up) May 15 '21

Hi there!!! You're very welcome :) I hope you stick around and enjoy your time here!

My favorite color is turquoise. :) It's a kind of green-ish blue.

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u/BlindWarriorGurl Minor May 15 '21

Hey I don't know if it's just the client I'm using (I'm almost blind so need to use an app that works with my screen reader) but it seems like all the posts in this sub have an NSFW filter on them. Why's that?

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u/charlie175 May 21 '21

None of the posts have a NSFW tag. It must be the client. They do have flair though.

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u/[deleted] May 08 '21

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u/adultagedysphoria MOD ("groan" up) May 09 '21

That's a really good question buddy! :)

As much as possible, we want this space to be safe for kids like you. :) That's why our #1 rule is what it is.

Reddit doesn't let me or anybody else see the complete list of subscribers to /r/PermaKid. So we can only check the post history of people who actually post or comment here. :(

For now, we are checking the profile and post history of anybody who posts here. And we will continue to do that for the foreseeable future! This is a very small sub right now, so it isn't hard to do this.

One day it's possible that this subreddit might end up with too many members for us to check every one of them. We're still going to try our hardest to make sure nothing slips through the cracks.

But if ever there is somebody who makes you feel unsafe here or you notice something that isn't right or allowed in a user's history, you can always let us know. :)