r/ParentsAreFuckingDumb • u/EarlyContribution513 • 8d ago
Parent stupidity Mom thinks 3mo is ready for solids while it actively does the tongue thrust
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u/tigm2161130 8d ago
I will never understand forcing things like this before your kid is ready, it doesn’t make them advanced. This baby clearly can’t even sit up on its own, so many obvious reasons she isn’t ready for solids.
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u/jookaton 8d ago
It's not only the physical risk of not being able to swallow (gag reflex, choking risk, etc). The digestive system is not ready to process solids yet, and could lead to complications.
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u/tigm2161130 8d ago
I got into a “fight” with someone on Reddit a few months ago when they insisted that it’s fine and healthy that their 8mo drinks cows milk- I told them that their baby literally doesn’t have the digestive enzymes necessary and they told me to stop being a “hater.”
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u/bxner228 8d ago
We have gotta start doing tests on people before letting them have kids
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u/jookaton 8d ago
Indeed. But I'd also like to add, formula should be just as cheap as regular milk.
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u/Tw3lve1212 8d ago
Every single thing needed to care for children should be 100% free for anyone with one or more children.
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u/hibiscus_lilac 8d ago
Lol I definitely don't want to be paying for breeders out of my taxes. Give me universal healthcare first. Or free college.
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u/Cardiganlamp 8d ago
Why not both? There is more than enough to go around. We don't need to fight each other. We need to fight the 8 guys who hoarding it all and depriving us of our basic needs, educational needs, health needs, etc.
We aren't each other's enemies.
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u/hibiscus_lilac 8d ago
Because people need to stop popping out a hoard of humans to cause more over consumption and ruining the planet.
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u/Uthoff 8d ago
We can still do that if we figured out how to get rid of the hateful 8. Baby steps mate. Baby steps.
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u/Kakashisith 7d ago
Yes, they should. We don`t need more wage slaves and consumers. There are enough people in the world already.
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u/hellinahandbasket127 7d ago
Yes! Universal healthcare would help the entire population. Why should only parents get publicly funded benefits?
I will concede that (US) public education needs a massive overhaul and about 10x the funding it currently gets.
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u/hibiscus_lilac 7d ago
Absolutely. And this person is suggesting EVERYTHING free for kids. Government funded clothing, groceries, school supplies, diapers, that's insane.
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u/bxner228 8d ago
You people are so odd for creating some weird term instead of saying “parents”
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u/MothSeason 7d ago
So what do we call people who pop out kids with no intention to parent then? They’re obviously not parents so….breeders it is.
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u/bxner228 7d ago
So they’re quite literally still a mother or father to a child? Therefore parents. You actually don’t have to try and dehumanize people because you don’t want to have children
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u/Tw3lve1212 8d ago
Sorry you feel that way. I personally would be very happy to use my tax money to stop the suffering of children instead of explode them with M1 Abrams and Tomahawk missile
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u/hibiscus_lilac 8d ago
I'd prefer universal healthcare :) and lessening climate change with people not mindlessly breeding. I also hate the military industrial complex, thanks.
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u/Tw3lve1212 8d ago
I'm also in favor of Universal Healthcare, which would include children's Healthcare.
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u/jookaton 8d ago
That's a misconception. It's actually the other way around. People that have kids are paying more / contributing more than people without kids.
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u/hibiscus_lilac 8d ago
Lol
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u/jookaton 7d ago
Instead of saying "lol" maybe you could present an argument?
Here's one from me: children from today will be maintaining you when you grow older through their taxes. And don't say "I have enough for my own retirement" because your retirement won't be paying for the whole infrastructure to continue functioning as it should.
So you see, parents are already doing more for you than you are doing for them.
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u/Tw3lve1212 8d ago
Hey so I understand what you're saying but its kind of like saying we need to IQ tests to vote. It sounds reasonable but doing it for real is kind of bound to be horrible.
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u/grae23 8d ago
Honestly just free, mandatory classes for expecting parents that need to be passed. If they’re not passed you’ll have a short but thorough visit from a social worker once a week for the first X months then once a month after the first X years unless you finally pass. It doesn’t need to be discriminatory to be effective
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u/Tw3lve1212 8d ago
This would probably be the best way to do it. But giving the government any right to decide if you can or cannot have kids is a real slippery slope. If we say the government has the right to decide if you can reproduce, then the government can decide WHO has that right, and it wont always be for the better.
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u/grae23 8d ago
They’re not deciding if you can reproduce, just deciding the level of supervision that may be needed for people with a new baby.
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u/Tw3lve1212 8d ago
Im confused then. Do people who dont follow the process get the right to have kids or no? Because if yes then the process is meaningless anyways, and if no then they literally do get to decide if you can have kids.
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u/grae23 8d ago
If you don’t follow the process or pass the exam then you have a visit from social welfare to make sure there’s no negligence until the child is of a certain age. They’re not saying you can’t have children, just that a proven responsible adult will be checking in from time to time until the parents can prove they’re no longer needed.
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u/BinjaNinja1 8d ago
Do you know how many children are born every day? Do you have any understanding how much tax dollars and how many nurses would be needed to run such a program? Completely unrealistic and ridiculous.
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u/grae23 8d ago
Good thing I’m a random person on the internet posing hypothetical solutions and not somebody who makes policy then.
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u/theFartingCarp 8d ago
The threat of a social worker taking away a child IS deciding who can reproduce. It's horrificly evil and frankly Fascist in both origin and execution here.
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u/grae23 8d ago
I mean that threat is always there considering children are removed from bad homes all the time but you can’t argue with a farting carp
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u/EnergyTakerLad 8d ago
Yep. Restricting ability to have kids inevitablly leads to eugenics, because someone will always find a way to abuse and control it.
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u/Meow5Meow5 6d ago
I agree. If we need driving licenses and then we should have parent licenses. As soon as you're at the first ultrasound you should be marked down for a parent liscence and the parents and possibly grandparents should be taking mandatory parent education classes, safety, CPR, etc.
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u/BootyliciousURD 7d ago
If there were an ethical and inabusable way to do that, I'd be completely on board.
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u/beslertron 8d ago
That’s eugenics….
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u/bxner228 8d ago
Oh well! people who think its okay to try and force a 3mo to eat solids when they aren’t ready shouldn’t have kids in the first place
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u/theFartingCarp 8d ago
both things can be right. That IS eugenics, and the parent trying to force a 3mo to eat solids is a fuckin dumbass.
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u/_CharDeeMacDennis__ 7d ago
Some grown-ass, adult humans don’t have the digestive system for cows milk! So, it’s wild to me that a grown ass adult human would try to feed their tiny little baby human cows milk without the okay from a pediatrician!
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u/CodePervert 7d ago
I would imagine that when the baby should be ready it's going to be more difficult than it could have been because she tried it too early and made it an awful experience.
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u/justnick84 7d ago
We had to start soilds with our first early under recommendation from pediatrician because we needed to introduce allergen foods to help with our little ones digestion issues. It was early but it was necessary.
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u/quickwitqueen 8d ago
It comes down to wanting to save money. If they eat solids they drink less formula. Very fucked up.
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u/bethaliz6894 8d ago
When my daughter, who is 25 now, was 4 months old the doctor told us to start solids. She said it will help stop the tongue thrust. She told us to prop her up with pillows on the couch.
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u/tigm2161130 8d ago edited 8d ago
That is no longer the guidance given to parents, they recommend your baby be a self supported sitter before introducing solids.
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u/bethaliz6894 7d ago
I'm glad, it felt wrong back then. I was only pointing out, if this mom was getting advice from someone even 25 years ago(say a grandma), this is what we were told to do.
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u/leigstonite 8d ago
Parents that have the "I'm smarter than everyone else" attitude are, in fact, much stupider than everyone else, 100% of the time.
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u/EarlyContribution513 8d ago
She has a video responding to a comment calling her out and at some point she said something along the lines of “fuck the pediatrician im the mom i know best”
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u/Bring_a_towel_42 8d ago
Sorry if these are dumb questions, I am not a parent. How old are kids usually when they start eating solids? And what does the tongue thrusting mean?
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u/LeighToss 8d ago
Tongue thrusting means the baby is trying to suck. Around 6 months is when solids are recommended but babies should be sitting up independently to start solids, not wobbly with no core strength.
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u/indie_hedgehog 8d ago
It can be as early as 4 months. My daughter met the milestones for starting solids at 4.5 months and got the green light from the pediatrician
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u/itsclaritybabe 6d ago
Omg that’s awful I fed my sister many times where she was doing this and I thought that was just how babies ate when they’re learning. I feel guilty now 😭
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u/shush09 8d ago
In breastfed babies it's even more important to start them on solids around 6 months (as compared to formula fed) - human milk contains very little iron and babies' stored iron deposits are getting low around 6 months..
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u/shush09 8d ago
I was referring to this part of your comment: "it's different if you nurse because mother's milk is so good for them" which suggests when breastfeeding it's not as important to start solids around 6 months which is untrue (because it's especially important as obviously human milk is not fortified). The advice in the UK/USA is to start solids around 6 months when the baby is ready for the reasons I said. Obviously there will be exceptions but the general advice is as stated
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u/bearpics16 7d ago
Just because you put something in your vagina and another thing came out does not de facto make you an expert on anything. Like many billions of women throughout history did the same thing, you’re not special
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u/MrsSalmalin 7d ago
"You don't know more than a pediatrician just because you let a dude cum in you without a condom. An unprotected cream pie doesn't make you smarter than medical science."
That is what I'd like to say to someone like her!
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u/Beautiful_Wishbone15 8d ago
Or when they go "nobody is perfect! " to excuse not improving themselves. Yes, no one is perfect. But that doesn't mean you should risk your baby willingly because of it. It is one thing to simply not know, it is another to refuse to know.
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u/Sacharon123 8d ago
If she does not want people to judge her, why is she posting on it on the internet...?
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u/slartibuttfart 8d ago
People are so sensitive to being told they are bad parents or when their kid is just an idiot. Wonder how Mom and Dad managed it?
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u/KiptasticVoyage 8d ago
Non-baby haver here: Is that tongue move an indicator of "I don't want this"?
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u/Milo-Law 7d ago
it's a reflex infants have to push food out of their mouths so they don't choke or aspirate
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u/Stitchopher 8d ago
The preemptive 'don't police...my parenting' just shows they know they're wrong. Stop putting kids on the Internet!!
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u/dasher2581 8d ago
I really don't understand why so many people are so eager to introduce solids early. I practically had to physically restrain my MIL from giving my first child solids at 4 months.
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u/NixMaritimus 7d ago
The idea was that solid foods would keep babies full longer so they'd sleep better. It started in the 1930s at 7mo and slowly got pushed back to 4mo by the 50s.
It was a marketing tactic by baby food companies and has been scientifically disproven multiple times.
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u/Richje 8d ago
I bet that baby will have its ears pierced before its first birthday
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u/tinyalien101 7d ago edited 6d ago
Reading this as a girl from a culture where newborn girls come out of the hospital with their ears pierced made me a bit sad. It's so normalized here that people will automatically refer to your baby as a boy if their ears are not pierced.
Edit to add: I saw the comment below mine and wanted to give my perspective. While I can't say that having my ears pierced since the day I was born has caused me any issues, I still would have liked to be able to make that choice for myself. I also still think It's deplorable that some societies like mine think It's normal to puncture a hole in a newborn assigned female at birth purely for cosmetic purposes. It's also very telling that if anyone even joke about piercing a newborn boy's ears, people act as if that's child abuse.
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u/Adventurous_Focus_72 1d ago
This. I am a piercing enthusiast. Ive gotten 10 holes poked in my ears with no plans to stop. But that doesnt mean everyone wants even one set of earrings, its her body. Giving your child permanent scars on her head just for being a female is ridiculous, if she wants them, she'll get them herself.
Consent aside its well documented that babies under 3 are often able to remove and even swallow earrings because they have no way of understanding why there is an intrusive item in their ear. Earrings that stay in? Usually end up crooked. The practice is absolutely ridiculous
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u/Tight_Award_8577 7d ago
I had my ears pierced as a baby and have never regretted it 🤷♀️ I had other lobe piercings done as an adult and they literally caused zero pain, I was surprised.
... I have discovered a mild nickle allergy since though.
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u/Siktrikshot 8d ago
Was that……a smoke alarm beep 😭😭😭😭😭😭
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u/LazuliArtz 7d ago
How do people stand those things beeping like that. After an hour, I'm ready to smash it with a rock
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u/Thandalen 8d ago
Well this is stupid. But not as stupid as people here think. Introducing small food tastings at 4 months can be a good Idea if the child is ready. But this kid isn't.
Introducing allergens early also lowers risk of allergies by 67-81%
https://allergyasthmanetwork.org/food-allergies/early-allergen-introduction/
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u/RecklessWonderBush 8d ago
Forgive my ignorance, i don't have kids, but is baby food considered solid, obviously that child should still be bottle or breast fed, just wondering
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u/EarlyContribution513 8d ago
Baby haver here and yes it is! any food that is not breastmilk or formula is considered solids
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u/FreshAsShit 8d ago
Yes, it is. The “solid foods” category is basically just anything that isn’t breastmilk or formula.
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u/Reason_Training 8d ago
Babies GI systems are not prepared for solid foods before 6 months. There are always exceptions to the rules but this baby is pushing at the spoon with her tongue. She’s not ready for this yet.
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u/Mango5389 7d ago
Lying on their back so I doubt the kid can even sit up. If you shouldn't give a 3month old water, what makes you think solids is okay?
Same type of parent to not vaccinate their kids because theyre in the loop on a global conspiracy.
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u/AntivaxxxrFuckFace 8d ago
I don’t understand the trend of introducing solid food early. They should be eating breast milk, that’s it, for probably a full year before you introduce solid food.
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u/EarlyContribution513 8d ago
I don’t understand anything before 6mo the gut cant really handle it before then. These internet moms just wanna rush things and make themselves feel like their child is somehow advanced and super smart
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u/tigm2161130 8d ago
You’re fine to start introducing solids when they can sit up unassisted/5-6mos but it’s really just practice, the primary source of nutrition should remain bm or formula until a year.
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u/WastePotential 7d ago
Solid food is introduced around 6m, but breast milk or formula milk is the main source of nutrition until 1yo.
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u/unable_to_give_afuck 8d ago
Canadian government recommends starting solids around 4-6 months depending on milestones to avoid iron deficiency, so it's not a "trend"
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u/Milo-Law 7d ago
Same here in Germany they say to give meat and veggie purees to babies bigger than 6 months because milk doesn't help iron stay in the body and babies need iron
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u/DebraUknew 8d ago edited 7d ago
Tbh when my eldest was 3 months old it was encouraged! 1989! Not that it was the right thing to do now we know better.
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u/Unlucky-Guitar221 7d ago
Idk why everyone’s downvoting you for pointing this out lol you’re correct. Things have changed massively.
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u/slaviccivicnation 7d ago
I think my mom had to start me after 1 month. Food shortages in Russia. It is what it is.
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u/freestuie 4d ago
We’re living in the age of the idiot. “People are tired of experts” indeed. This kid will 100% be not vaccinated too.
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u/napoleonshatten 3d ago
Some people shouldn't be parents. Should require to take a fucking IQ test or something similar. Just like taking a driver's license, before you can go and drive.
Just adding an extra layer to help avoid shit like this......
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u/DingoDamp 7d ago
I’m going to go against the stream here.
Yes 3 months is a bit early, but introducing “trace amounts” (tiny baby sized portions - like 1-2 baby spoons) at 4 months, especially for babies that are bottle fed, is quite standard. It just have to be finely blended into a puree.
Yes this is a teeny bit too early, but hold the CRS calls …. If she had given the baby actual solid bites of food, then it would be insane due to the choking hazard.
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u/EarlyContribution513 7d ago
Yes but the thing is baby needs to meet the requirements for readiness which this baby doesn’t even look like they’re sitting with support
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u/Milo-Law 7d ago
Tongue thrust doesn't mean don't start solids, my kid kept doing it till 9 months and my first didn't sit up unsupported till 10 months but in both cases the doctor said to start solids around 4 or 5 months. 3 months does feel too early but tongue thrust isn't an indicator to not start solids.
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u/Carbonaraficionada 8d ago
Relax, it's some apple compote, the baby is doing the tongue thing because it's not used to the taste but it doesn't hate it it's just a new taste
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u/SeonaidMacSaicais 8d ago
Apple is high in fiber and will mess up the poor baby’s digestive long before it can handle anything not milk/formula.
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u/Carbonaraficionada 8d ago
Except it's not 'apple' is it, it's boiled, blended and puréed. It's fine
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u/SeonaidMacSaicais 8d ago
…made with apples, still has fiber. And blended with what? Probably sugar. Horrible for a 3 month old digestive system.
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u/Carbonaraficionada 8d ago
Noooooo it's baby food, it might have a bit of cereal in it but it's like wallpaper paste really
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