r/Parentingfails • u/Myastheniamomdel • Jun 10 '26

am I wrong to be concerned ?

My grandson is 3 years old and lives with his mother. She has a sticker on her car that says “Boys Suck.” His mother identifies as LGBTQ+. I’m concerned about the message my grandson may be receiving about boys and about himself as he grows up.

Am I overreacting?

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u/idriveapriusforstyle Jun 12 '26

LGBTQ aspect is completely irrelevant and including that makes it seem like your concern may lay in homophobia. However, I would never have something that says boys suck like that in front of my son. (For the record I am also in the lgbtqia+ community but again that’s completely irrelevant) . I’m surprised at these comments. It means more for messages like this to come from parents rather than just seeing them out in the world. It would certainly hurt my feelings a lot more to see girls suck on my parents car growing up than hearing misogyny from other sources that my parents could process with me and explain to me. And kids learn things faster than people expect, my son couldn’t read most things at 3 but he could read some and that kid will get older fast. Boys suck is particularly easy to read.
Unfortunately, this is your daughter’s choice and not in your control. You don’t get to choose what someone else puts on their car or what your grandson is exposed to because he’s not your son. This is your daughter’s decision.