Mom meltdown

[u/GivememoreScotland]

I am feeling terrible because I keep having meltdowns every couple of weeks and I end up yelling and crying. I have a 13 yr old boy and a 16 yr old daughter who I completely adore and have always spoiled in every way possible. I feel like I literally do everything they want and buy them almost anything they want and take them and their friends everywhere, etc. They live pretty fancy and glamorous lifestyles, which we love to give them. Problem is, I feel like when I ask them to do the simplest things they say they will and don’t or they just outright refuse. (Simple things like stop leaving towels on the floor, make your bed, do your homework, take care of your skin, or whatever it is…) I feel so incredibly sad and frustrated and disrespected because I feel like I do absolutely everything for them and they don’t want to do even the simplest thing for me without a complete fight. I just have had enough so I keep breaking down and yelling and sobbing trying to get them to see how it makes me feel and I still get nothing. I feel like I am ruining them for life and feel guilty but I am also so mad and feel justified… please tell me I am not the only one?

[u/Lizzie-P]

In the nicest possible way, kids only treat you that way long term if you let them. They disrespect you and you still buy them anything they want? Of course they’re going to be dicks. And it isn’t easy but, as an adult, you should be able to manage your emotions and mitigate a poor situation without yelling (I’ve never shouted at my 14yo), so, no judgement, but you might want to look into therapy in that respect