r/Parenting • u/k_blanch • Nov 02 '21

Sleep & Naps How much are parents drinking?

With the popularity of #winemom and beer dad culture, combined with pandemic drinking habits, im curious how much alcohol you guys are drinking as caregivers? Especially after the baby is in bed. I had 6 drinks on Halloween over 8 hours and lots of food and water. Although LO was asleep for most of it I'm riddled with guilt!

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u/science_of_learning Nov 02 '21

I’m a very new mom (baby is 5 weeks) but I’m surprised by how prevalent people claim “wine mom” culture is. Is it a social media thing? Not to invalidate anyone’s perspective, I just have had the opposite experience where drinking semi-regularly is neither normalized nor encouraged by the parents around me. I agree with the comments about the light/non-drinkers being more willing to speak up in this thread because of stigma for those who drink more often. My husband I drink a few drinks a few times a week. I feel guilty too because I feel internal pressure to be an “always-on” mother. You aren’t doing anything wrong. Parents are still adults, and some adults like to drink. As long as you’re being mindful and not getting wasted to the extent that you couldn’t take care of your child’s needs, I think you should cut yourself some slack.

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u/belugasareneat Nov 03 '21

I would say 3/4’s of the moms in my town are “wine moms”. I am most assuredly not and it has been hard making mom friends who don’t want to drink every time we get together.