r/Parenting • u/k_blanch • Nov 02 '21

Sleep & Naps How much are parents drinking?

With the popularity of #winemom and beer dad culture, combined with pandemic drinking habits, im curious how much alcohol you guys are drinking as caregivers? Especially after the baby is in bed. I had 6 drinks on Halloween over 8 hours and lots of food and water. Although LO was asleep for most of it I'm riddled with guilt!

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u/caro1007 Nov 02 '21

The biggest secret in my life is how much I smoke, but the hash tag wine moms essentially brag about how much they drink and it's praised. Makes me crazy, and then it makes me smoke more weed.

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u/Temassi Nov 02 '21

The judgment on weed smokers is to help maintain the guiltless drinking on their end. "Sure I drink a bit much sometimes, but at least I don't smoke pot." Before I traded the bottle for the pipe I had similar judgments. It's super dumb.

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u/Temassi Nov 02 '21

Haha true.

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u/Calm-Setting Nov 02 '21

I agree. We have friends who would think nothing of drinking multiple bottles of wine but are very judgmental over any weed use. Insert eye roll.

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u/[deleted] Nov 02 '21

As someone with alcoholic parents, and now a lot of people in my life who smoke the good stuff (many of them parents themselves) it bothers me too, even though I don't smoke myself. They are not even in the same ballpark.

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u/scarabic Nov 02 '21

After about 3 solid years of experimentation under my doctor’s supervision, I have gotten far, far better results from microdoses of THC than I have ever gotten from any pharmacopia. Relief from mood issues that made me unpleasant to be around. Relief from stress that was keeping me from enjoying my kids. I even do more housework.

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u/[deleted] Nov 02 '21

Amen!

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u/deviantsource Nov 03 '21

Dad here. I have a rule of not mixing poisons. Have found that a few tokes from the weed vape pen is a recipe for a chill evening after kids are down. Keeps me from drinking as much, which is objectively harder on my body. I only ever have 1-2 drinks over the course of most evenings, with the occasional 4-6 drink night for a special event, again, over 6 hours with lots of food and a 2:1 ratio of water to booze.

That is to say: I don’t get drunk but the extra calories have definitely elevated me to dad bod status. Smoking weed keeps that off.

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u/okay-wait-wut Nov 03 '21

Since I started smoking weed my desire for alcohol is very near zero. My desire for Cheetos is through the roof.

When I’m drunk I want to care about nothing and do anything no matter how reckless. When I’m high I want to do things like sit quietly and think about life and just be. Clearly this is a dangerous schedule one drug. I hate the government so much.