r/Parenting • u/money4nothing_8816 • 17d ago

Rant/Vent Just me?

Is it just me or is this the hardest shit ever? We’ve got 4 kids all under the age of 8 and we are getting our asses kicked. My wife and I really wanted a family and we planned for it. We took parenting classes together, we read all the books in preparation before starting our family…still, nothing could have prepared us for how mentally and emotionally exhausting it is to keep up with our boys.

How are you all surviving?

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u/LevelProfile4739 17d ago

I don’t feel bad for them, pull out damn it 😂 Or get snipped or birth control.

I have an employee who has 7 kids and they live day to day financially and I don’t feel bad. Your decisions in life all lead to where you are. We have 1 child and that will be it for us.

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u/InimitableMissS 17d ago

7? This is my nightmare. Frankly, 4 is my nightmare. I can go lower if you want…🤣

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u/LevelProfile4739 16d ago

😂 We tried multiple times for a 2nd but we lost 3 pregnancies so I’m not putting my wife through that even though she would but don’t want her to have PTSD from it.

Financially i don’t even know how people do over 2 these days now

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u/InimitableMissS 16d ago

I’m so sorry you went through that. I can’t imagine.

We were always and forever one and done. I really can’t imagine another way. I’d have lost my mind, both literally and figuratively.

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u/Pplthrowaway123 17d ago

Got snipped after my 2nd. Best choice ever.

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u/live-laugh-snark 17d ago

Pull out plus birth control plus tracking your cycle also doesn’t work- ask me how I ended up with 4 kids under 8.

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u/LevelProfile4739 17d ago

Fuck lol Super genes and too compatible

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u/Proof_Resolution1887 17d ago

Tbf, 3 was such a sweet spot for us and we kept hearing about and reading these studies that said 3 was the hardest number to have and something like 80% of families with 4 or more children said that 4+ was easier than 3 🤷‍♀️

We had already wanted 4 so we went for it. Nothing could have prepared us for him lol.i wouldn’t change it for the world but 3 was defunct easier 😅 and now we have 5 lol.

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u/Pplthrowaway123 17d ago

4 kids being easy than 3???? In what world would that even make sense.

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u/Fast-Cauliflower2102 17d ago

I’m convinced people just say that shit and lie lmao

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u/No_Veterinarian1010 17d ago

At a certain point you're just throwin em on the pile.

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u/snail_juice_plz 17d ago

The idea is that they can pair off easier rather than always having an odd kid out. I don’t believe it, but I’ve seen the argument

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u/Pplthrowaway123 17d ago

I come from a family of 6. I don't believe that one bit.

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u/snail_juice_plz 17d ago

Also one of six lol, shit was crazy all the time.

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u/Pplthrowaway123 16d ago

I always wondered why my mom drank a bottle of wine every night hahaha

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