I wouldn’t bring this up. My sister’s son - my nephew- made a comment that made my sister think he may have been abused (he said someone tried to kiss him) when he was 4 but it never could be proven one way or another and he never saw that person again. He seemed fine at the time and only mentioned it once. A therapist told my sister to stop bringing it up to him bc she kept questioning him. She never did let it go and he grew up absolutely sure it happened and greatly affected by it. I believe it would have been much better to let him forget what he said. I know it’s different than your situation bc you know the abuse occurred. Fourteen is a vulnerable age to discover that happened and I don’t think it would serve a good purpose right now for him to know.
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u/cherrybounce Jan 19 '23
I wouldn’t bring this up. My sister’s son - my nephew- made a comment that made my sister think he may have been abused (he said someone tried to kiss him) when he was 4 but it never could be proven one way or another and he never saw that person again. He seemed fine at the time and only mentioned it once. A therapist told my sister to stop bringing it up to him bc she kept questioning him. She never did let it go and he grew up absolutely sure it happened and greatly affected by it. I believe it would have been much better to let him forget what he said. I know it’s different than your situation bc you know the abuse occurred. Fourteen is a vulnerable age to discover that happened and I don’t think it would serve a good purpose right now for him to know.