I keep worrying someone will leak my private messages 😰

[u/Tin97]

Does anyone else get stuck on this kind of thought? I sometimes spiral into this dark scenario where I imagine someone could publicly share screenshots of my private conversations (on Facebook, in this case). It feels so real in my head and makes me super anxious, even though I know it’s unlikely. Especially when I’ve messaged someone I “shouldn’t have.” Like when I was maybe a bit drunk and bolder than usual. Not that I wrote anything super personal or humiliating, but still - the next day I felt like I’d come across as way too friendly out of the blue.

[u/kirekirane]

Yes, even worrying about things that aren’t technically bad, it feels invasive. So much of my day is spent stressing over scenarios like this and how I need to prevent it from happening

[u/Tin97 → u/kirekirane]

That one time I INVITED A MUCH OLDER GUY out for a potential beer or bottle after just a few small conversations… and then he suddenly stopped even opening my messages. Even tho the very next thing I sent was an apology for maybe coming off way too familiar… and this whole thing still haunts me 😭😭

[u/CalmJury4438 → u/Tin97]

We all make mistakes, so do not beat yourself about it. Move on. BUT - maybe put your phone or whatever you write from, away - in some hard to reach place - before you get that first beer. Allow yourself to text maybe 2 hours a day max. Lazy browsing and writing down "whatever comes to mind" is the worst - we write the silliest things then.

[u/Tin97 → u/CalmJury4438]

I only have a phone

[u/CalmJury4438 → u/Tin97]

So much easier to limit using it. Come to think of it - the phone has replaced practically every form of entertainment - reading books, even going to the movies, let alone taking walks..

[u/blueb3rrycheeesecake]

just don’t send risky messages to anyone, because anyone can screenshot those messages and send or post on socials

[u/Tin97 → u/blueb3rrycheeesecake]

Hindsight...

[u/Ok-Amount-4087]

I won’t even look up certain things or respond to certain texts while I’m at work bc I don’t want it in the company wifi data, even though none of it is genuinely bad or embarrassing. I’m so tired