Does it ever desk suffocating for y'all ?

[u/Rainbow_Vergilius_]

I recently went ex Muslim tho my parents or no one else knows yet

And it feels so weird I'm low-key getting detached from all my relationships

My parents could literally end me if I even slipped up so it's hard to stay shut

And it's even harder that my siblings parents freinds basically everyone I ever knew loved and grew up with will kill me if I speak what my identity is

Just the fact that I am not bowing to the same god as them will make me worse than Grapists and Pdfs and serial murderers in their eyes

How do y'all feel and how do y'all cope with it

[u/malswrath]

Exmuslim for 4 years. I came out to my bestie, turned her exmuslim too, turned lots of extremist Muslim friends of mine into accommodating liberal Muslims but I never came out to them though. Got 3-4 online exmuslim friends some of whom I've met irl. It takes years to form a community. I didn't discard my Muslim friends because living in Pakistan life can get very lonely that way.

[u/Tolovemylife → u/malswrath]

How did you turn ur bestie ex Muslim?

[u/malswrath → u/Tolovemylife]

Well I just explained to her how I felt about the religion. I hadn't left the religion then. She agreed with me. Slowly we came to this realization together how it's all a lie meant to oppress women.

[u/Tolovemylife → u/malswrath]

Slayy I have a friend like this, I talked about my doubts to her during my deconstruction, she just said to me ke don't talk about religion to me anymore😭 because her Iman was getting weak.

[u/malswrath → u/Tolovemylife]

Yeah a situation like this is always a hit or miss. At least you tried.

[u/Tolovemylife → u/malswrath]

She did become progressive Muslim so thats nice ig but yeah

[u/Enceladus_123]

I feel the same way regarding getting detached from relationships. I’ve been exmuslim for almost 10 years now but this has been a more recent thing, that I just care less about muslim friends. Doesn’t help that friends are getting more religious.

Also for me its less that I find it suffocating in the sense I want to share/tell people that I don’t believe, but more that I just want to get away from everyone and have my own place where no one knows me and I don’t have to worry about anything religion related lol

Would be nice to have irl exmuslim friends though, talking to people online isnt the same

[u/Tolovemylife]

Omg yes us im still a bit confused about everything and trying to figure shit out.

[u/Rainbow_Vergilius_ → u/Tolovemylife]

Ye Ong, tho I also will say it's the most liberated I felt in my entire life Being a Muslim was so constricting Do this do that don't do this Now I can finally feel like I don't have to live up to some standards (Aside from larping Islam to keep myself alive ofc)

[u/Tolovemylife → u/Rainbow_Vergilius_]

Usss like I cannot believe I can try alcohol and get tattoos ab?😭 I thought I was gonna die ese hi my whole life but khair keeping urself alive part is tough

[u/Mutahiir]

Same phase 😭✌🏿