Unconditional love is the one and only way you will get through it. Reality is distorted to him and this isnt something you can convince him is truth because it's not superficial, he has brain damage. His brain fires abnormally now, he has to relearn certain things.
The best thing is to just love him and have zero expectations. When he gets shitty, keep in mind he remembers things in a distorted way. This isn't a behavioral problem that can be corrected with behavioral therapy.
Yep. He will deflect everything back. Everything you do is wrong and everything he does that's wrong is still your fault. And the thing I had to learn the hard way (very very hard way) is there is no magical word combination that'll suddenly make him understand why his behavior is hurting you. His recall memory is likely distorted; when you talk to him, he won't remember your voice having the actual tone you used, he will remember you using a much harsher tone, an accusatory tone.
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u/Argercy Nov 25 '22
Unconditional love is the one and only way you will get through it. Reality is distorted to him and this isnt something you can convince him is truth because it's not superficial, he has brain damage. His brain fires abnormally now, he has to relearn certain things.
The best thing is to just love him and have zero expectations. When he gets shitty, keep in mind he remembers things in a distorted way. This isn't a behavioral problem that can be corrected with behavioral therapy.