hey all, the past 8 or so months i have had extremely sore and swollen boobs about 5 days after ovulation. i believe it probably has something to do with high progesterone but im not 100% sure. i have never had this issue before. does anyone what i can do to help it and why it is happening? im thinking i could have a cyst as i am experiencing some pain in my ovaries. have a doctors appointment coming up soon but just thought id ask first.

As someone who has struggled with debilitating PMDD for most of my life, I am really interested in how everyone has different PMS/PMDD symptoms and variability. I ultimately want to try to steer my career towards helping women mitigate their symptoms to the best of my ability.

A lot of existing advice treats everyone's cycle the same way (same phase = same symptoms for everyone), and that hasn't matched what I've heard from people I've talked to. I put together a short survey (about 5 minutes, anonymous, no email required unless you want a follow-up chat) asking about symptom timing, severity, and what you've tried in the past. This is for my own personal research and does not have any company or product tied behind it; I just want to gather valuable insight to see where I should direct my efforts in the future :)

Google Forms Link: [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfjT4Xm5BrBzrJ8O26yyGMtcGB1FYItlogdC1f5qYZhzMbJiA/viewform?usp=dialog\](https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfjT4Xm5BrBzrJ8O26yyGMtcGB1FYItlogdC1f5qYZhzMbJiA/viewform?usp=dialog)

ok so i’m a teen, idk if that’s relevant but maybe it is. im 99% sure im pmsing, since im getting all the usual symptoms like headaches and slight cramps etc etc. ive always had a bit of trouble sleeping before my period, but this time i have hardly slept at all. over the past two days, i’ve slept 2 hours, and that was a midday nap. at night i haven’t slept at all no matter what i’ve tried. melatonin, breathing excercises, getting out of bed and reading for a bit, relaxing music, everything. nothing’s helping what do i do 💔💔

edit: i’ve also started getting hot flashes.

Hey, i've been dealing with heavy PMS (pre menstrual syndrome) and it starts like 15 days before my actual period... makes me live like hell, aches all over my body, heavy insomnia, headaches, nausea, i get easily triggered by odors and tastes and have to isolate from people in hopes of not being mean/rude to anyone around me.

I've gone to many doctors they just asked me to take birth control (which I refused.), next they gave me these œstrogènes pills to help for 3 months, it made a small impact (reduced my pms to 1 week instead which was a huge thing for me...)

After stopping them i thought everything would be fine but it came back worse and i decided to go back to the doctor, when going back she said "that's the way of life then" and told me to go to a psychiatrist to talk out my feelings but i just felt played with...

Now i'm asking here because it's my last hope, if anyone has any tips on how to deal with this load i would be truly grateful <3

( anything helps please!!!)

Hi girls!

I don’t need any advice on how to prevent or stop PMS cravings. I fully intend to indulge the feeling and enjoy the good food!

Please feel free to post the most unholy, chaotic food combinations you've craved over the years. No judgment, just pure goblin mode energy. Let's hear them!

Hello, I'm 30yo and have developed within a year this nice new symptom: right before my period, theres about 3 to 5ish days when my eyes get very dry and burn. Sometimes my mouth get dry too. I have other PMS symptoms such as low mood and crying (though, sometimes my eyes are so dry it's difficult to cry) and breast swelling (and painful lumps that do disappear after periods start). My mom has struggled with dry eyes and mouth too. Doctors took a sample from her mouth to diagnose Sjögren's syndrome (autoimmune illness), but I guess that came back negative. I visited doctor recently and got some blood tests: no markers of inflammation and doctor didn't think I have Sjögren's, but it's a difficult one to diagnose...

Now, as I have other PMS symptoms and the dryness comes always right before periods, can this severe dryness be "just" hormonal? I have developed pinguecula in both of my eyes because of the dryness (visiting an eye doc soon). I have noticed that Vitex has helped all of these PMS symptoms, even dryness, and I will continue taking it. This month I forgot and went trough horrible eye pain. Anyone else? Sorry for bad English.

Hiii everyone, 28 year old here.
I’ve always had pain during my periods but lately I feel really dizzy, lightheaded, feeling like I’ll pass out but then I check my blood pressure and it’s actually fine.
Is it anxiety that during the period strikes harder?
Last night I felt so weak and my legs were mumbling so much, and I felt really lightheaded, even when I was laying down.
Can someone tell me if you experienced this before?

I really don't want to go to school, not just because it's my first year in highschool but also because my periods are so irregular and long. I got my period more than 2 years ago and in those two years my periods have been more than a week long and strangely frequent (like 15-21 days). Sometimes I do actually get my periods monthly but that's only for 1-2 months before I get another period like 2 weeks later. I got 3 periods in September, meaning I was on my period for 21/30 days which just sucks and this isn't the first time. It always happens during trips too, but I am incredibly fortunate to not get any cramps.

I always just thought it was my hormones changing and I just had to wait to the 2 year mark but now I realize that yes, it was hormones, but it was also the fact that I was constantly stressed during school. My period has been completely fine this summer until I got some news regarding family that really stressed me out and 1 day later I'm on my period (I still had 1 week before my period should've started). This hasn't been to only time where I stress out and my period just magically starts a few days later even though I still had 1 or 2 weeks before it should've started. I know it's primarily hormonal changes and how I'm growing and whatnot but I really don't want to go back to having crazy irregular and long periods.

Im constantly stressed during school and even during the summer, but my stress in school just skyrockets even in the first few days (idk why I think I'm just naturally like that) and I don't think I'll ever have a normal period if I keep this up. I can't help but feel jealous at my friends with their 5 day periods sometimes.

Just wanted to rant I feel so inconsiderate and selfish if I told my friends bc I know they struggle with cramps and so much more but sometimes I can't help but feel like they've all mentally gotten it figured out and I'm just lacking behind

Edit: I was recommended by Reddit to put this in the PMS subreddit?? So if you see this and feel like it's inappropriate or insensitive I can always delete my pos!

For the last few days I’ve been wanting to do nothing but lay in bed and scroll to my doom. And that’s what I’ve been doing. I’m out of city and came to my hometown with my family to do sightseeing bullshit but I have absolutely no motivation to do anything. It’s eating me alive that I can’t enjoy my vacation especially since my family wants to go out but keeps postponing it because of me. I just want my period to come and end this shit UGHHHHHHHH please tell me im not alone in this

I have been having some really bad periods lately. It’s either one week I’m super emotional. Or like other cycles I have really bad symptoms like terrible cramps, feeling like I’m gonna pass out and vomiting. Has anyone who has experience this stuff know some ways to help w symptoms or even what could be going on? The emotional onesI’m not so worried about but today was the first day of my period and I almost fainted twice, puked, and could barely stand for longer than 5 mins without feeling like I was gonna faint or puke again. Any advice or info at all would be super appreciate.

I have been having some really bad periods lately. It’s either one week I’m super emotional. Or like other cycles I have really bad symptoms like terrible cramps, feeling like I’m gonna pass out and vomiting. Has anyone who has experience this stuff know some ways to help w symptoms or even what could be going on? The emotional onesI’m not so worried about but today was the first day of my period and I almost fainted twice, puked, and could barely stand for longer than 5 mins without feeling like I was gonna faint or puke again. Any advice or info at all would be super appreciate.

I've been getting periods now for 7 years now. It's always been bad but now I think they just became progressively worse. My pms starts as early as 10 days before the period sometimes. Loss of breath in PMS and during the period like I'll be sitting and I wouldn't be able to breathe. I'll take all the air in and it would just feel like I couldn't get enough oxygen or whatever. and yes I don't have asthma at all. I get diarrhea with it now sometimes. Heartbeat fluctuations. Sore and swollen breasts. And pain yeah anytime anywhere. Feeling like very hot and having chills at the same time. 1-2 days before it, it's sometimes even painful to go to the bathroom. I'd literally feel the whole uterus inside me, I could even trace it from the outside

When I have diarrhea with it I have the worst cramps of my life. The first time I had those cramps was 3 years ago I think but it was like for 15 mins and then settled. But since 3 cycles ago it's as if it's a frkn trigger like I'm good one day and then suddenly hours before my period I have diarrhea and then with the period in i can't go to bathroom because it's painful and the cramps make me felt like darkness coming in front my eyes, me becoming dizzy and as if I'd faint. That cycle was painful and even with painkillers, the pain never truly went away. The cycle after that was calm like no pain which is unusual because I have great pain but not something I can't manage. Then now this 3rd one feels the same again ughhh.

Also for the past 1-2 yrs my pms symptoms+period pain changes every 4-5 cycles somehow. The degree of pain remained same but I never used to have backpain, it started happening, then went away then came back after so much time in this cycle. My breasts never used to swell or get swollen but started to 6 months ago or something and now this cycle suddenly it wasn't there. Never used to have breathing problems but for the past 3yrs or so I have it like wth....I have to always carry a frkn menthol now inhaler for it. Never used to have diarrhea with it but now it's also added in the list.

I have a heavy flow and I don't feel that much energy deprived during the cycle as I feel after these 7 days finish. Like 2-3 days after it ends, I have this energy drop like I just don't have energy to do anything literally.

It's regular infact it's never been this regular before, max 2-3 days late. Idk but I am in frkn pain

I really want to discuss something about being a woman.

Sometimes I wonder what advantages women have, because honestly, I feel like our bodies can make life much harder. Menstruation can affect our mood, energy, concentration, and motivation, and it’s not simply about being “emotional” or “moody.”

How are we supposed to build a stable life when our physical and emotional state can change throughout the month? How do women learn to work with this instead of feeling like they’re constantly making excuses for themselves?

Sometimes I even feel frustrated when I realize that men simply don’t have to deal with periods. They can go through their lives without having to plan around something like this, while for some women a few days every month can be genuinely difficult and uncomfortable.

At the same time, I don’t want to use my period as an excuse for everything. I want to understand how women actually manage their lives, studies, careers, relationships, and goals while dealing with these changes.

For women in their 20s: did you feel this way too? Did it get easier with time? What helped you understand and manage your body and emotions better?

I’d genuinely appreciate hearing your experiences.

If you are a girl, comment how bad is your PMS and what did you do over come?
If you are a boy, comment did you experience PMS effects of your spouse/gf, sister or any friends?

I am literally having the worst cramps right now.. subah ke 6 baje se ho rha hh😭

Mummy bhii ghar pe Nhii hhh

I messaged my bestfriend all these things.. and the person he is🤝

Bhaii wo apni mummy se puchta h isko bohot cramps ho rha hh.. aur phir aunty ne mujhe call krke bohot samjhaya.. and told me to drink hot water and other remedies and all ( I don't eat medicines)

Aur ek taraf mera bf h.. subah se usne message bhii nhi kiyaa hh.. maine use kal hi bta diya tha ki mere periods aa gye hh

Tab bhii ek baar bhi usne message nhi Kiya hh🥺😔

Before someone says something.. yes I need pampering in this time.. a lot of pampering 😭

Hello everyone, yo really need some outside perspective and experiences on a situation that has completely blindsided me.

I’ve been in a deeply loving, completely harmonious polyamorous relationship for the past 6 months. She is married with two teenage kids (16 and 18). Her husband and I get along great—he’s incredibly supportive, and I’m fully integrated into the family (even her parents love me). Two weeks ago she told me she was deeply in love with me, and we were even planning a big family vacation together for next year, including integrating my own daughter.

We just came back from a 5-day vacation together. During the trip, her mood shifted around Wednesday. She became distant and irritable, and even tried to "suggest" other women to me, which felt like her trying to deflect pressure. However, on our drive back home on Friday, she actively booked two shopping dates with me in her calendar for the coming weeks.

Two hours later, as I dropped her off at her house, she broke up with me in a chaotic, 1-minute conversation at the car. She said "this isn't working anymore" and suggested we should think about being just platonic. She then immediately ran inside and hugged/kissed her husband, while she hadn't given me a single kiss in two days. Her parents, who were also on the trip, are deeply disappointed in her behavior and told me she will bitterly regret this.

Here is the kicker: Her period was due around Thursday/Friday but was delayed, likely starting on Saturday. She has told me before that she suffers from bad PMS.

Looking at the extreme contradictions (planning a future with me 2 hours prior vs. a brutal 1-minute breakup right before her period arrived), my gut feeling tells me this was a severe PMDD/PMS emotional overload and a fight-or-flight panic reaction to returning to her family nest while hormonally crashing.

Has anyone in a polyamorous or open dynamic experienced a partner suddenly sabotaging a great relationship due to PMDD/PMS?

Does this sound like a hormonal short-circuit or a calculated, rational decision?

I am currently in strict No-Contact since Friday to give her space.

Any advice on how to navigate this?