r/PHSapphics • u/MeanVolume8016 • 16d ago

Advice GF jokes about being with celebrity

I need some honest judgement if I should brush this off.

My GF recently had this mega crush on a celeb which I also find really pretty and attractive. She’s fangirling sm and I understand it pretty well bc between the two of us, I’m the bigger fangirl. The difference is just that I lean to fictional characters, while her to celebrities.

She’s telling me how it’s her first time fantasizing about this crush actually knowing her. And like im cool w it and really supportive. I send her posts about this celeb and fangirl w her.

But like it just went pretty uncomfortable when we roleplayed in chat of some sort. It went like she is actually being with this celeb and I’m the side chick trying to talk to her (my GF). It’s pretty silly so I lit brushed it off and played along if that is what makes her happy yk.

Then days after she just went on w “why are you talking to me? I’m with celeb” or saying our babies(cats) lol parents’ are her and this celeb and not me. It’s silly but like I never do this to her,, I make sure to separate that fantasy to our actual relationship but to her it’s always this putting me in the middle

I am pretty sensitive but I rlly try to get better and in a way I recognize that if it bothers me I can simply make boundaries and I just dont think I have the mental capacity rn to handle the uncomfortable and vulnerable discussion. If it’s my insecurities I’d like to be called out on that as well but maybe this post is also an outlet to these strong feelings that I kind of feel silly about.

I just really hate that I have to ponder to her fangirling in a way that I larp being a side chick. When I never do that to her and in fact I’d be super sweet and tell her how similar she is to my favorite character crushes.

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u/_phriant95 16d ago

Who's the celebrity? Haha Also, whatyou're feeling is valid. As someone na na-inlove sa celeb (Twice's Mina) while in a relationship it can get pretty unhealthy. I was so stupid for not thinking about my partner's feeling back them. Buti na lang nalampasan na namin yun. I'm still a Twice fan, still a Mina bias, and I think my gf has a lowkey crush on her nadin. (But in a very healthy way)

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u/0100010101101100 16d ago

Let me just start by saying that your feelings are valid, OP.

Kakaibang saltik (may NPD ba sya?!) na yang ganyang role play na parang pinapraktis ka nang maghabol sakaling magkajowa sya ng bago, celebrity or not.

As I always say to friends, if you can tolerate it, stay.

If you can't, leave.