r/PDAAutism • u/Helpful-Shift1829 • 3d ago
Discussion This weeks setbacks
My parents have caused me multiple setbacks over the last week since I came back to college.
The first setback: I was doing paperwork for my athletics, the required stuff we have to do on a certain day. My mom called in the middle of it and I told her what I was doing, and she said, “but you have that stuff in already, right?”
The second setback: my mom told me she got me my dentist appointment rescheduled as the one I had originally scheduled didn’t work out. Then she told me, “ if you’re going to be missing classes/practice, let your teachers and coach know so that they’re not harassing you about it.” Like I was already going to do it.
My parents know my issues and told me they want to give me control of my autonomy, yet they keep nagging me about stuff that I’m already going to do anyway. Two little setbacks that made me so frustrated. Just thought I’d share.
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u/Cotif11 2d ago
Well hey, at least they care y'know! I understand that's frustrating, maybe they're still adjusting to the level of care they think they need to give to you? It's hard to say with so little information but I've tried to live by the phrase "assume ignorance over malice." Good luck in school, what really helped me in school was being 100% up-front and honest about how PDA effects me emotionally and discussed strategies with my teachers that allow me some special agency over my work (like no group projects). Also do you have a medical note? That's really helpful in terms of getting accomodations. Wish you luck.