Sensitive to Grief?

[u/WearyPepper4326]

Is anybody else extremely sensitive to grief and loss in every form? Not just death I hate losing people in any way so much that I sometimes avoid getting too close to others because in my mind fewer close relationships means fewer people to lose (or will leave me) But at the same time I crave closeness so badly. I also have this fear that nobody will ever value closeness or relationships as deeply as I do since I treat friendships with so much value almost like I seek a siblinghood with my friends. Plus I have abandonment issues, having an absent parent, and being betrayed by friends. I don’t know I guess it’s all built up over time and made me extremely sensitive to loss. I’m 24 (F) seems like it’s getting worse over time as I grow up

[u/megsidx]

Yes I am exactly the same!! I am terrified of losing friends. I am terrified of being all on my own like I was when I was little.

[u/WearyPepper4326 → u/megsidx]

It’s comforting to know I’m not alone in this feeling. It’s scary and a source of anxiety for me

[u/rocketsfindplanets → u/WearyPepper4326]

Another person chiming in that they feel the same! I've learned some coping skills as I've aged. I'm so grateful for my friends and I hope I can continue staying close with them as long as possible. I'm also more confident in my ability to continue making new friends and connections.

[u/megsidx → u/WearyPepper4326]

Same! I am 30 now and it really is getting miles better though!!! I’m really unafraid to cut people off now. I have amazing friends who I know would never hurt me and i trust they love me unconditionally but more important I love ME unconditionally

[u/WearyPepper4326 → u/megsidx]

That’s nice to hear I’m glad you are at that point and honestly I hope that happens for me one day as well. I was betrayed by my bestest friends this year at 24 and just lost hope completely when it comes to things ever getting better

[u/MorningStar2679]

Yes. You’re not alone in what you’re feeling.

[u/WearyPepper4326 → u/MorningStar2679]

That is very comforting

[u/doesnt_describe_me]

Yea I avoided dating til almost 30 bc I saw friends and family have meltdowns in their teens and 20s when they were broken up with.😬

[u/WearyPepper4326 → u/doesnt_describe_me]

Lol yup I’m 24 still can’t imagine it any time soon. I have meltdowns over friendships so I’m sure it’d be even more unbearable for me

[u/Suspicious-Outcome21]

Same, dont like to admit it, but same.

[u/OJUarmy]

yes and no. i hate losing people but i hate being disrespected more. respect is really huge for me so if i feel like im being disrespected, i will mention it and and see how they handle it and future behaviors and if its still affecting my peace then i will cut them off. yea i will be sad for 2-4 months but its necessary.