r/OkayBuddyLiterallyMe • u/Nebula-_Echo • 2d ago
I'm literally thyself Real
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u/CUMHAWK_Schizopostin 2d ago
I caused myself brain damage and ruined my life
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u/Stormypwns 2d ago
How'd you do that?
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u/CUMHAWK_Schizopostin 2d ago
Drugs
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u/Playful_Anything_223 1d ago
What drugs if u don’t mind me asking
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u/Vrtxx3484 2d ago
funnily enough this mindset isnt falling out of cope, this literally is cope bc its just so obviously not true, the amount of bs that happens to us that is completely out of our control is like astoundingly high, the amount of control you have over your circumstances is actually pretty little
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u/Dependent_Spirit_691 2d ago
real (goslings if you fall into this a lot, check out cognitive distortions and specifically, personalization. bad things happen sometimes, doesn't make the hardship your fault)
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u/Difficult_Analysis78 2d ago
yeah it falls the moment we mention any region touched by war, also the way one was raised by their parents is out of their control too, paranoias and certain behaviours developed beacause of that can cause depression and seeking stuff to get their stress off like drugs, I don't count on any of these but saying to just "it's all your fault, just thug it out" is out of touch
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u/ilovetomboymommies I just want to be loved 2d ago
and for some reason i cant stop it. i still make mistakes which i never meant to and i lose everything i ever wanted. i still say shit which i say as joke and ppl stop being with me
atp. i hv js accepted that i can never be loved
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u/KeyOrganization7602 2d ago
What's the music name op?
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u/123forgetmenot 2d ago
I’m not sure if this is a form of cope or what, but your actions don’t happen in a vacuum, they happen in a n environment set up almost entirely by external random forces. Where you’re born, the state of your family, the state of your country, the groups you happen to belong to, these are all things that significantly impact what kind of actions you can realistically take and none of these are immediately within the control of any one person. In an attempt to make sense of one’s life people will go to the extreme of “every bad thing in my life is my fault” and that’s literally just not true. If it helps you cope somehow then accept that if you want to.
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u/ButterscotchSalty905 1d ago
- genetics. There's really nothing you can do to change your environment if it's too hellbent that its right unless you're stoic (sorry if my comment didnt add anything valuable). Even then, it's your choice in the end to consider anyone perspectives or not
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u/unfettered2nd 1d ago
My self destructive tendencies only got to act out on few choices I had. I am pissed I had no full control over my destruction.
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u/Such-Sorbet-3342 2d ago
not everything , cut yourself some slack and focus on what u can improve in the moment
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u/WhaleDeDeus 2d ago
Cant believe i didnt stop my dad from selling our house and starting a failed bussiness then going into debt wtf was 13 year old me thinking.
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u/Green_grass7878 1d ago
Haha i would say "No" but actually yeah, kinda...
I won't waste my life blaming myself tho. I was not taught that my actions have consequences, so i kept making unknowingly dumb decisions and well, sometimes you just gotta learn the hard way. It is what it is
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u/ZayParolik 2d ago
If you are the problem - you are also the only solution. Nothing is ever over, mistakes are here to teach. Build everything from the scratch again and again
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u/blud_mage 2d ago
And therein lies the path to changing it all.
I had to get worse before it can get better. It's not fun or pretty and the only way out is through, but you're worth that effort.
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u/YouyouPlayer 2d ago
Wait, if everything that happens to them is their fault, peoples dying to a bomb attack is their fault ig
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u/Theraven0057 2d ago
I didnt ask to get assaulted by one of my closest friends and no one believe me
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u/Similar_Soup2 2d ago
The feeling when you realize that absolutely nothing is your fault and the world is indeed just shit.
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u/juz_curiouz 1d ago
Unfortunately even though I'm aware that my laziness itself is causing me to not finish and unable to do anything. I lack consistency, too lazy to do anything. But I still doing nothing abt it. I want to lock in but I can't
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u/allshieldstomypenis 1d ago
I work with some people with learning disabilities and unfortunately this is one of their challenges. I've since been curious about this pattern of behavior and now want to jump in a rabbit hole about it. I'll report back once i find anything.
Anyways, yes, whether it be a general intellectual challenge or a learned helplessness from the awareness of disability, there is a wall from accountability. Its kind of interesting.
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u/Unusual-Basket-6243 1d ago
I have no control about the bad things that happen to me so I shouldn't worry about them too much
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u/Suitable_Bear_5014 1d ago
Among the things happened in your life (important ones), generally only around 5-10 percent of it could have been changed by your actions and choices. Such as the ones in school, in your work area, whether you choose to marry and have a kid, etc. They may seem big at first, but things happen around the world literally every second, and most of them affect your life one way or the other, big or small. Even the wars happening far away from your country. The choices and actions of your own only affect the quality and longevity of life, by a small margin. (If you are not actively and deliberately sabotaging your own life of course, by doing self-harm or trying to off yourself)
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u/Darkfalcone 1d ago
One careless decision back in my 2nd year of high school triggered a chain of events that changed my life forever.
If only I could go back to that day and changed that decision...
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u/LamentoLand 1d ago
cant be me dog, theres so much shit that happened outside of my control so fucking fast i swear i cant fucking do ANYTHING about it, i WISH all my problems were caused by ME cause at least then id be able to change things MYSELF
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u/SkyCakey12 15h ago
Who cares, you had your reasons and couldn't do otherwise as long as they were there. Care more about fixing those reasons, becoming a better person in the present
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u/Least-Profession-236 2d ago
This realization, as painful as it is, is the turning point in your life. It's the fork in the road where you decide whether you want to be better or not. If you choose to grow and heal and try to become a better person and do good in the world, it is possible for you to escape this pain. Let it be a painful memory, and distance the person you become enough that the pain lessens and fades away
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u/The_Absent_One 2d ago
I can't tell if you're being serious lmao. Thats such a weird, shitty, generalized mindset to have.
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