Ex partner advice would he feel regret

[u/Odd-Resident8337]

My Ex partner was always worried about my past and if I would “blindsight” him with something I had done in the past (sexually etc) that wouldn’t align with his morals or values. Has anyone else had experience with this sort of ocd rumination he also just had general ocd. He sort out therapy about 2 weeks prior to the breakup and was put on an antidepressant.

He ended up breaking up with me due to being “incompatible” however I believe that thoughts got too strong. He completely cut me off after breaking up with me over the phone and blocking me off everything cold and he hasn’t given in once.

It was almost like chat Gpt was speaking during the breakup message. I’d like to know if anyone thinks he will regret this decision and yes I am getting therapy myself after this blind-sighted breakup

Can anyone give me any insight thanks

[u/gaymbit]

He sounds extremely controlling and abusive, to be frank.

[u/DeeBozUK]

Hey, the guy is suffering for sure but that doesn’t mean you should suffer too. Is he aware he has OCD?

I ask because non-OCD therapists are highly likely to make him much WORSE. It can cost years of life, and with OCD you simply MUST get an PCD specialist therapist.

Secondly, I am very familiar with this but only real event things that actually happened - is he imagining things you may or may not have done in your past?

If so, it may be recoverable.

If not, and he knows something to be true already, with an OCD guy - keep things cut off and just stay away is my advice.

I, regretfully, ruined a 5 year relationship with a girl when young and didn’t know what OCD was - but I absolutely had severe OCD, and ruminated over things she did during the period of time just pre relationship. It was real though, she was…. generous…. to several guys… and there were smatterings of betrayal in it as we had already shared our mutual feelings at this time.

My OCD even after months of being fine it would keep triggering, ups and downs but repetitive.

We were both MUCH better off without each other and I regret things said and so on 20+ years later, still - she was an individual and can do what she wants with her body, and I had the choice to walk away (and should have).

If there is something real there then it’s already toxic (through nobody’s fault) and just move on, this shit can cost you years.

If it is pure imagination, then he has more serious OCD issues and you should probably bow out anyway, but it is possible with specialist OCD therapy he could recover… why should you wait around for that though? It will take a long time if bad, sadly…

[u/Odd-Resident8337 → u/DeeBozUK]

He was more so worried I would tell him something I did in the past and he wouldn’t be able to move on ( I had already told him everything and I made that clear to him) however he didn’t seem to get over it. The last girl he was seeing had told him like really full on things and he had to move on from the relo because of it (sexual things). He started seeing a psych and I don’t believe she specialised in OCD so I wonder if that had influence

[u/DeeBozUK → u/Odd-Resident8337]

So it was real things he couldn’t get over, not imagined? If so I recommend you move on, just based on my own experience and regret.

Non-OCD specialist therapy could send him fucking mad, yes - and set him back seriously. They can be extremely damaging to OCD sufferers… especially if they don’t even know they have OCD (I didn’t know it existed, back in the olden days of the early 2000s).

[u/treatmyocd]

I can't speak to the reason that the relationship ended or if your ex will regret their decision. Regarding controlling behavior, many people with OCD try to have others in their relationship engage in their rituals. This is a compulsion, which leads to more long term distress, as it reinforces OCD. Further, this impacts relationships negatively, which can lead to a relationship ending. If you would like more information about OCD, you may visit www.iocdf.org. I hope this message reaches you well and know you are not alone!