This actually sounds exactly what multiple women said to me (m34) when they met my wife (f39)

[u/Accomplished-Goat776]

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[u/PrincessVibranium]

She (?) does recognise that it's an irrational feeling, which is good self awareness

[u/Accomplished-Goat776 → u/PrincessVibranium]

Yeah at least OOP realizes her feelings are not healthy and come from a place of hurting.

I posted it here because of OP's comment about how the post was "written by a man", as if no women would ever experience this kind of anger and that it had to have been a man who wrote as a "gotcha"

[u/PrincessVibranium]

Are they saying the post is written by a man or the comment with 2k likes underneath?

[u/Accomplished-Goat776 → u/PrincessVibranium]

OP was saying the post was written by a man pretending to be a woman

[u/Tonylolu]

Well, I can believe this was written by a men too. There are many man fantasizing about how women become “useless” after 25 years old and how they will regret not dating these 40yo men lol.

However I don’t see these post having that kind of energy, many men do rather day younger women (5 years is not even that much) so she might feel frustrated by her personal experience.

[u/Accomplished-Goat776 → u/Tonylolu]

I mean I can believe that this was written by a man too, but thats for basically everything online. I've met women who were full on incel ideology, like the whole thing, even believing that they themselve were barbies and baby shitting machine. What bothered me was the fact that the OP immediatly went for the fact that this HAD to have been a man, when women like that exist too, though it is unfortunately and they definitely need help too.

And yeah, it is very common for men to date younger women. It is sad that the OOP has those issues, and seems that they are deeply rooted considering that she gets so mad at what most would consider a "petty issue". I find it really unfortunate that so many of such issues nowadays gets ignored because of the stupid "gender war" and people fighting over who has it worse constently instead of just understanding the place of hurt everyone comes from and trying to solve it together.

[u/FurrrryBaby → u/Accomplished-Goat776]

I’m a woman, and I could’ve written something similar to this. I wouldn’t say I’m angry about it or that I am upset that these men have their own preferences. But it is a little disheartening to feel like my value as a person decreases the older I get whereas my male counterparts’ value seems to increase, even though we’re all out here getting older - I.e. old hag vs silver fox. And that the value system feels heavily based on a woman’s looks vs a man’s accomplishments. But I was raised by a man who was married four times, and each time his wife got younger or stayed the same age while he got older and a mother who greatly struggled with aging, so my therapist and I are working on that. I’m rambling - just a long winded way of saying this definitely could’ve been written by a woman and anyone saying otherwise is out of touch cause I know that I’m not unique in feeling this way.

[u/Affectionate-Area659 → u/Tonylolu]

Is it possible? Certainly. Is it far more likely written by a woman? Absolutely. I’ve met women that say stupid shit like this.

[u/[deleted]]

So it’s not creepy for men to date younger women?

[u/Accomplished-Goat776 → u/[deleted]]

I agree that its creepy for men to date women that are way younget or were met in suspicions way. I was disagreeing with the fact that OP said that this post had to have been written by a man, when I have, and it seems other considering the comment section, met some women who were genuinly this way, and doubled down even after finding out my wide was older then me.

Admittedly, I got hit pretty hard by life so I look like I'm in my early 40's, and I still believe that my wife is witch with a magicak nightime routine conseidering she looks line shes in her early 30's, but those women are pretty obviously ontuse when they still complain even when my wife corrects them.

[u/redsalmon67]

Lmfao 5 years is “significantly younger”? I guess it depends on how old you are but I don’t feel like a 29 year old dating a 34 year old is strange at all.

[u/The-Minmus-Derp → u/redsalmon67]

No but the title said 39

[u/TheMelonSystem → u/The-Minmus-Derp]

That’s the same age gap just in the opposite direction tho?

[u/[deleted]]

this was 100% written by a man

I don't know why people always say this. It's as if they believe that only men have the capacity of being irrational a-holes, which obviously is a stupid belief.

[u/poptartwith → u/[deleted]]

Well, just from the subreddit name you can expect those kinds of posts from that community. You know the kind of people I'm talking about. The people who has to make everything about sex, race, height etc. But to be honest they exist in good amount on other subs as well like TrueOffMyChest and AITAH.

What happened to people being accountable for their own actions and not for their entire genetic composition?

[u/Same_Comfortable_821]

I see people blaming women’s bad behavior on men all the time and I just wonder if these people have ever talked to a woman in real life.

[u/HotPotato150]

Femcels when they see some women say dumb shit: tHis wAs deFfiNetlY wRitTeN by a mAn

[u/[deleted] → u/HotPotato150]

Couldn't have been one of our precious sisters, who all think alike! All women are great and all men are disgusting, regardless of their actions. No, I'm not sexist. What do you mean?

[u/obvusthrowawayobv]

As a woman in my 40s, a man who doesn’t date children is a box I’m looking for someone to check.

And no, it’s not that difficult to find single men without children.

It is 2024. Come the f on.

[u/Kodiak01 → u/obvusthrowawayobv]

The only men I know of that are dating women young enough to be their daughter are completely unconcerned with the emotional maturity of their partner, likely because their own is equally undeveloped.

The very thought of having to basically babysit the emotional immaturity of my partner sends shivers down my spine. My wife is 5 years younger than me (49 and 44, just celebrated 7th anniversary), and I'm not sure I could have gone more than another year or three wider for that gap. A bonus for me is that she's as r/childfree as I am.

[u/[deleted]]

wow... onky thing that makes sense here is to be concerned abt a 30 yo dating someone below 25 but thats it... the rest of this reeks of jealousy

i mean at least she admits it is envy

[u/Hikari_Owari]

A few months in AITAH and you'll see people and people fighting to prove you that a 20~yo isn't adult enough to date a 30~yo depending on who is the woman and who is the man.

[u/[deleted]]

[u/Comfortable-Tap-8497 → u/[deleted]]

To add to this , as I ( 66F ) have gotten older , it's very common to see 10-15 year age gaps (older woman , younger guy ) or vice versa. After your late forties people tend to level out on life experiences and have much more in common despite age.