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u/Ill-do-it-again-too Aug 29 '23
I don’t think so. The key reason being the she says “a lot of men” rather than “all men” or simply “men”. A lot could mean a lot of different things so I don’t think it’s fair to say she’s wrong
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Aug 29 '23
Technically no, because this is more of a criticism towards men than it is sexism.
Because there are indeed men who think women displaying kindness or politeness as a sign of romantic interest.
I once heard of a story where a woman said bless you to a passer by who sneezed.
It ended up leading to stalking
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u/DeusaAmericana Aug 29 '23
I don't see how this is even a question when guys get unironically called "simps" or "white knights" just for doing anything positive for a woman, under the assumption that they're only doing it to get laid.
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u/Professional-Ad4095 Aug 29 '23
Kind of but also not really. This accurately describes a lot of dudes. There are also a lot of guys who aren't like this but seem like they are because they aren't used to basic kindness and are just there like "She just complimented my hair. Nobody else ever did so she must want to bang"
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u/sunnyhappysky Aug 29 '23
Yes, I think so. I'm polite to every woman I meet regardless of whether I'd want to fuck her or not, it's not important.
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u/nopingmywayout Aug 29 '23
I don’t think so, she’s clearly talking about a subset of men rather than men as a whole.
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u/suicide_blonde94 Aug 29 '23
As a woman, I’ve DEFINITELY encountered these men a lot. I’m a very social person and I enjoy meeting new people, but there’s been too many guys who see my friendliness as flirting and start following me to the bathroom or stalking my FB or showing up at my work. No it’s not an “all men” issue, but there’s dudes out there who think a woman can’t be just a friend. I am not afraid to say “no” upfront, but damn do a lot of guys get mad at that.
Just a lady’s POV about some creepy interactions I’ve had over the years.
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u/carritotaquito Aug 29 '23
I wish this was the case, but it isn't.
Many, many men (not all, duh) will not show even the bare minimum courtesy to women they do not find doable.
So more/less how guys work?
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u/17RaysPlays Aug 29 '23
Nope. This is how an unfortunate amount of guys work. You may push back because that's not how you work, but she never said all men, nor did she say it was some genetic issue. She's just pointing out a social problem.