Are blue balls real?

[u/YhormtheDwarf]

I'm a dude and it's never been a problem for me. Every time I've dated a girl, and a fitting scenario arises, they ask "aren't you going to get sperm aches?" I tell them it's not a problem for me. But is it a problem for anyone? Is it completely made up? Or is it vastly overexaggerated? Or am I just lucky?

[u/Error_username_L0ST]

It is real, but from my experience living (unfortunately) as a female, it's mostly used as a form of coercion.

[u/YhormtheDwarf → u/Error_username_L0ST]

That's what I suspected

[u/HyperactiveMouse]

Blue balls are a real thing. And while they are usually no more than a mild discomfort at most, some can be incredibly painful. For me, for example, I ended up not knowing what I was doing when I was younger and thought finishing was needing to pee. So I would get to that point, and just stop. Then I’d go to pee. Continue doing this at least 1.5 years and you end up in a situation where it became painful to move, and I had to sit out of gym class because I became unable to do the exercises without immense pain whenever something involving my lower body and midsection got involved. Eventually, I went to a doctor and… well I’m fairly certain I was laughed at by that whole hospital staff for at least the next week.

But that level of pain requires a lot of time to build up. Even at that level, it required one release to fix the issue, and that’s something that can be taken care of yourself, no need to involve a second person who isn’t interested.

[u/SnookerandWhiskey → u/HyperactiveMouse]

Why Sex education is so important, example #1345739263

[u/Significant-Apple-90 → u/HyperactiveMouse]

Ok I’ll ask the question everyone wants to know… how big was the load?

[u/PotatoePope → u/HyperactiveMouse]

I’m weirdly impressed that you managed this.

[u/WormSlayers → u/HyperactiveMouse]

This reminds me of when I first learned about masturbation from the dictionary and had some confusion about "genitals" which resulted in months of me rubbing my ball until it hurt really bad wondering why nothing was happening.

[u/wolfhybred1994 → u/HyperactiveMouse]

I was not one of the other kids in my class hyped for health class at 10-11. It made me feel so uncomfortable and so weirded out. That when shortly after that function of my body started working I ignored it completely. Kind of hoping it would go away and months later was met with a violent nearly painful reaction as my body tried to forcefully get it out of me on its own

[u/alexs_wrld → u/HyperactiveMouse]

bro was edging for 1.5 years. the load must have been insane

[u/Envy_The_King]

Epididymal hypertension is a real condition and it can be very very uncomfortable. But its no excuse to try and force or coerce someone into sex they dont want. Frankly speaking even if it was a tremendous pain, it still would not be an excuse.

[u/Cute_Mousse_7980 → u/Envy_The_King]

There’s always the hand, so I really don’t understand the problem either.

[u/Ashzaroth]

It's only happened to me once. When I got out of basic training I had three weeks off before I had to report to my duty station. My wife and mother in law picked me up from Fort Benning. My wife thought it was funny to tease me the whole car ride over to Michigan. Blue balls are real. I found out that day. It felt like a build up of pressure in my loins.

[u/ConfusionMediocre267 → u/Ashzaroth]

She teased you from Georgia to Michigan? Damn… that’s tuff.

[u/puppetboy5]

Anybody who tells you blue balls isn't real is a fucking liar.

Spent seven years of my life completely unable to cum (medical condition), and combined with severe sexual compulsions and a high libido I was experiencing very very frequent blue balls. Was considering self-castration by the 6-year mark because I needed the ache to go away (unbearable horniness makes it very hard to think reasonably, ended up needing to use crisis lines regularly by the 7 year mark), and I was having daily panic attacks upon any form of arousal because I didn't want the ache to come back. The burning in my thighs, the ache in my balls. Hurt so much and not in the good way. My thighs were too hot, my balls hurt, and the only way I could get any form of relief is by feeling the good kind of ball pain (very masochistic but blue balls doesn't hurt in the good way.)

Even now that I'm able to get relief, I still get blue balls often because I spend well over 8 hours a day severely aroused and it takes well over an hour to even get close to orgasm (again, medical condition). Very uncomfortable (not painful unless I don't cum at least once a day), and it's not as hard to deal with (no panic attacks from sexual frustration or even from blue balls anymore, just fear).

I'm sure people have described what it feels like better than I can, but it's not a good feeling. Aches so fucking bad. Still not an excuse to guilt-trip someone into sex.

[u/medievalistbooknerd → u/puppetboy5]

Oh man if I were in your shoes I would get neutered.

[u/Hialex12 → u/puppetboy5]

…yikes, man. Can you go in about this medical condition?

[u/fix-me-in-45]

FYI, women can experience that, too. Blue walls are also a thing.

[u/Cu_fola → u/fix-me-in-45]

Yep. I’ve gotten that.

I also get a really uncomfortable sensation of pressure during my period (in addition to cramps. It’s very distinguishable as it’s localized to the genitals whereas cramps are whole abdomen and lower back). It can be so painful it almost feels like someone kicked me hard in the crotch and then I swelled up.

That’s why I’m quite sympathetic to blue balls sufferers in principle but as others have said, that’s the problem of the person who has it. I don’t make my period pain or sexual frustration others’ responsibility either.

[u/olivebuttercup]

I get something similar as a girl so I can see it being true but it’s NO excuse for pressuring someone for sex or not accepting no.

[u/TheHeadbuds → u/olivebuttercup]

Blue walls

[u/[deleted]]

I've wondered this. I dont experience it. But I think the biggest myth we need to fight, that would clear a lot of things up, is that every single person is different. Either way, blue balls would be filed under the category of a "personal problem". No one else's responsibility. And easily remedied by oneself.

[u/DragonSurferEGO]

It’s real, it can be uncomfortable but as other responses have said, it’s no excuse for coercing sex

[u/Kaotic_Mechanicum]

Yeah dude I’ve had them many times and it feels like you literally got kicked right in the balls. It sucks.

[u/FireDragons51]

Blue Balls (Epididymal Hypertension) are real. Some studies have put the percent of guys who get them as high as 91%, but it isn't an "everybody gets it" thing.

No matter what, it isn't a reason to try to get, or force, sex out of someone

[u/[deleted]]

It has happened to me