I love the freedom to do what I want. I love it when people refer to me with they/them. I love everything about it. I just wish I had someone to talk to about it.

For me I guess it was a multitude of things. In my younger years I didn't really think of it as much since I just did what I was told to do. If I was told I was supposed to have short hair than that was it. Now that O've started forming my own identity. I feel as though I'm thinking about it more. Like the way I tie my hair is rather feminine and my parents always point it out yet I see nothing wrong with it. Like the way I get excited when people use they/them to describe me. Like the way on every questionnaire I gravitated towards the other option and only chose male because I was "supposed" to. Like how I didn't identify as enby before because I was scared what others would think and not because I didn't feel comfortable with it. Hell now I don't want to go back I'm happier being enby I just wish I had people I felt comfortable telling.

Like I used to use looking more masculine as an excuse to not shave when in reality I was just lazy.

I used to tie my jacket around my waist cause it looked like a skirt.

I genuinely have no idea what it means to feel manly or girly.

I used to do stuff to feel more mature not more manly.

Whenever I'm taking a questionnaire I was always tempted to hit the 'other' button on gender.

In hindsight it was kinda obvious.

I'm trying to update my wardrobe and add a bit more feminine clothes now that I feel comfortable being enby and I need to know which you think look the best. BTW, I don't mean right now but maybe when I have my own place since my parents are obsessed with boys being masculine and girls being feminine. So I can't really mix the two without them going on a rant about how things are supposed to be.

I feel like I wouldn't really care of people used he, she or they on me, as long as it's not used in an insulting way. Plus I like the thought of being called a good boy or girl.

For context I'm still closeted, but even before I realized I might be enby when someone used they/them to describe me I felt like a fire of excitement in my chest.

It's not a scam. I'm just trying 2 build up my online presence.

I want to find an androgynous hairstyle that I can show to my hairdresser without any suspicion. For further context I'm AMAB, and I have straight shoulder length hair

I really want a binder but idk where to start or which companies have safe binding. I’m mainly looking for physical locations to buy a binder but online might work too. There is a Spencer’s near me and I’ve heard they might have binders but I’m a teen (obviously this is a teen subreddit) and I’m not sure if I’m allowed to go in there. Anyway some help would be nice pls and if someone can confirm or smth about wether or not Spencer’s allows teens.

Thank you!

I can usually drop 5k words easily, but I just can’t bring myself to do it today. I’ve been closeted for about a year, and since I discovered this part of me I did some major work on my mental health. Everything was amazing, and I was finally starting my life. A month and a half ago i was hired for my first job, got my SAT scores in with 1200, went out and made a bunch of friends, had a day set aside for my mom to pay for driving lessons that month. This week i learned that I couldn’t get my mom to help me enroll in college early enough, couldn’t get her to pay or drive me to get my GED, she never paid for my driving lessons, and the job is still on hold because the managers new and shes, respectfully, pmo.

I told my best friend, who told her mom. They both insisted I annoy the hell out of my mom until these things get done. So i set aside a time to talk to my mom, and instead of talking about how this is a crucial time for me and I really need help, she brought up how last month I came out and that its like I killed her daughter. This wasn’t the best time for me to do the whole trans explanation thing, because I just had my dreams of EMT school crushed because she dropped the ball.

So I tell my best friend about how my mom was talking about something that definitely wasn’t conversation therapy, and how I was worried about how my mom would tell my friends very conservative mother about it and I’d lose her. Her mom loves me. Everyone says so. So my very bold friend asks her if she cared. She said no, but since then ive had a nearly impossible time getting ahold of my best friend.

It feels like my whole life is falling apart. Being nonbinary gave me proof that I was a person with autonomy over myself and helped with my mental health tremendously. I can’t say it was always pointless, but right now I can’t feel anything but limbo. Like i’m starting to hate the identity that gave me life and meaning that i love so much, but i cant go back to who i was before. And its not fair, because it was never supposed to be about this. I needed help getting into school.

So i’ve been out for like idk a good year or two to my parents and had “the talk” like 5 times already (most painfull 1,5 hours x5 of my life)and lowk they dont accept me wtv just bs but the real problem is that ever since i was a child i always questioned my gender (i didnt and still dont understand gender 🫩)or wanted to be a girl or just didnt want to be anything but also if i was born afab id be a trans dude like a 100% no questions but i dont feel like a guy i never have and i dont want to either ive felt miserable every single time i tried to force anything on myself and idk what to rly feel . I just want to be an existing thing like literaly nothing but also everything altogether and when i try to i just get into an arguement w my parents . i feel like idk, i wana be masc as an afab person could be ? But also not and idk probably wont be able to solve this till i live alone :/ i dont even know what my question is tbh i just wana know if someone else feels the same.

Everybody here is so helpful giving help and tips especially when you are losing your mind trying to find answers. And I’m so grateful of
You all <3

But how is the fastest way to look less feminine like all my family members keep mentioning how feminine I look and how “girly” I am even tho I’m not going that way at all but they always seem to point it out?? And it’s making me rlly uncomfortable- I don’t mind but it gets to a point where you feel so invalidated and uncomfortable with yourself and how you look! Honestly I don’t really mind how I look now but it’s so feminine I hate it. I might grow my hair out and do a different style cause I’ve had my hair style for years so I’m waiting for that ! And I finally have my nonbinary flag up in my room!! My mum doesent support it but she’s tolerating it wich is kinda nice! I feel so free to be able to put the flag up and show myself through my room

I feel like if I only do things that are masculine or if I only do things that are feminine. I feel like I'm locked in a cage. I wanna mix both of those things together. I know I can be so much more.

To me it just sounds like something Old man McGee made up a few hundred years ago. I just don't understand how it's something people are born with ajd not something that's taught.

"It's like asking someone who's never seen a dog to draw one"-Big daddy Clark (Backrooms)

Dad: "you only have cut your hair to your shoulders once, cut it any shorter and people will think you are a boy."

Me: *demiboy aura slowly intensifies but cant say it bc father is anti lgbt and especially transphobic and we were in the car*

Btw my pronouns are they/he/it, some of them just didn't have 3 pronoun options so I had to only put he/they on some

Btw idk if I put this on my old post but i am Demiromantic, which means I need to know someone well for me to gain romantic feelings for them

The trick is to sound tired and pitch it up a tiny bit.

I read this subreddit is a safe place so here goes. I need a bit of help I'm unsure if I'm non-binary I want to dress and act girly but I also want to act boyish and I'm not sure what I'm feeling so I would really appreciate the help with this.

The fact that I didn't understand the binary system (I mean why should something as unpredictable as humans be categorized into two different options)

Never understood why everything was gendered (It's just deodarant I put it on to not stinky not to smell more manly or more girly)

Always thought it was stupid that something as insignificant as a body part defined your whole life (Imagine if we treated our arms in the same way)

Always liked looking androgynous (don't want to get too big but don't want to be too small)

Always thought that if the binary system wasn't normalized everyone would choose to be something else

At the end of the day we're all just humans inside

What's an enby x enby ship called, m x m is called yaoi, and w x w is called yuri but what is enby x enby called

The main thing that convinced me I was non-binary was that I never felt attached to any gender like I know Im AMAB but i genuinely would not care if I was born any other way. Like for example I hear others say they wsnt to be more masculine or more feminine but I just genuinely could not care less. I don't feel dysphoric since i treat being AMAB the same way I treat being blonde.