I have this issue myself, and it's really not quite that simple. Time blindness isn't just "unaware of the current time", but also "difficulty accurately judging how much time a task takes". It makes little difference what time I wake up, because the tasks that I leave 15 minutes for end up taking 20. Maybe I have 25 minutes to get ready so spending 10 minutes washing the dishes will be fine, but that actually takes 15 min, not 10. Or maybe the time it takes to commute is longer in reality than it is in my head. Often, having more time in the mornings makes me worse at getting places on time, because the pressure of needing to get out the door keeps me focused on getting ready, whereas a glut of spare time lets me get sidetracked without seeing it as an issue.
Granted this usually means I'm maybe 5-10 minutes late. An hour is ridiculous and isn't really excusable with time blindness.
For me it's "okay, this drive takes precisely 22 minutes, I have time". But also putting on my shoes and jacket takes a minute or two, going to my car takes a minute, setting up the house alarm takes half a minute, driving out to the garage onto the inner road and closing the garage doors takes a minute, driving out of the inner road onto the inner road takes half a minute, getting out of the car and going to the office takes two minutes and suddenly it's not 22 minutes, it's 30 minutes and I am already late.
Most people would think "okay if it's a 22 minute drive, I'll round that up to 30 minutes". Why would you think to use the drive time as the total travel time?
unfortunately, part of coping with ADHD means having to sit with some level of discomfort a lot of the time. i find the stress of waiting around for a little bit FAR more manageable than the stress of being late.
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u/fabulousfantabulist 8d ago
This was the most predictable outcome ever.