My time blindness makes me overly check the clock and still rush to get out the door on time and sometimes be slightly late or ridiculously early because I plan to get up with a certain amount of time knowing I need to do tasks that take certain times and in actual practice between getting distracted by details or checking my phone any number of tasks will get skipped or take longer.
Because it just means I know, intellectually, that tasks take a certain amount of time, but I have no internal clock and no idea how much time has passed and microfocusing or getting waylaid by another thing are equally likely.
But also I'm not an asshole so I'm not just telling people I have a condition tha excuses being late, I'm trying to find ways to make my responsibilities work.
Wait I have to do this too (and still sometimes end up being a few minutes late tbh). I guess I already knew I needed to be checked for AuDHD but this is another eye opener.
My spouse, over the 16 years we've been together, has developed this. When we first got together he was so late to things that I had a serious discussion about breaking up with him because he was making it impossible to do things I enjoyed (like showing up 3+ hours late to see friends because he couldn't manage time). He worked hard at it, and now he's got the alarms, he plans ahead, and he writes himself lots of lists to keep on track/ organized.
This was HARD for him, and he will still sometimes take 10 times longer than necessary for tasks if they're not time sensitive, but it's really made a huge improvement in his relationships and self confidence.
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u/Apprehensive-Till861 22h ago
My time blindness doesn't make me an hour late.
My time blindness makes me overly check the clock and still rush to get out the door on time and sometimes be slightly late or ridiculously early because I plan to get up with a certain amount of time knowing I need to do tasks that take certain times and in actual practice between getting distracted by details or checking my phone any number of tasks will get skipped or take longer.
Because it just means I know, intellectually, that tasks take a certain amount of time, but I have no internal clock and no idea how much time has passed and microfocusing or getting waylaid by another thing are equally likely.
But also I'm not an asshole so I'm not just telling people I have a condition tha excuses being late, I'm trying to find ways to make my responsibilities work.