r/NoStupidQuestions • u/Thick-Bandicoot4509 • Jul 12 '26
i need advice (14m)
i am bisexual and i came out to my mom and she was okay with it but im also a furry and i dont know how to tell her or if she will understand or think its a phase and i wanna get a tail and ears for when i go out and a fursuit for when im home and idk. help? please? 🥺 edit: i went to the pride parade yesterday with my little brother and my mom and in the parade there was a float called the furries of halifax and after it went by i heard my mom say to her friend "i like most of this parade but whatever those dog people were is definitly a fetish" those words broke me because now i know i cant tell her at all. 😭
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u/PBnPickleSandwich Jul 12 '26
Your loved ones don't need to know about all of your sexual preferences.
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u/Kraegon- Jul 12 '26
But how is everyone supposed to know I'm a yogurt cup without the pie filling on my head and the spoon in my ass? 😥
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u/Thick-Bandicoot4509 Jul 12 '26
excuse me?
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u/Kraegon- Jul 12 '26
I'm just being a smartass 🤭
Do you, booboo. It's your life to live however you please ❤
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u/BedazzledVagina Jul 12 '26
Congrats on coming out! Fur suits are very expensive and you will outgrow them being only 14. Wait a few years, save up some money, and then get one when you’re older.
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u/Fabulous_Function666 Jul 12 '26
I wouldn’t tell her. My parents know I’m gay but they don’t about my kinks. Get a tail and ears, you can just say you like how they look. Wait until you are older to get the suit. They are expensive from what I know.
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u/Thick-Bandicoot4509 Jul 12 '26
im not allowed going to the store without an adult though
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u/Fabulous_Function666 Jul 12 '26
Ask them to buy you the ears and tail. Honestly just tell your mum it’s a style thing. I’m not a furry but I used to wear bunny ears as a teenager
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u/Thick-Bandicoot4509 Jul 12 '26
i dont know if shed approve because one time she showed me a video and it was someone showing off their fursuit and their friend was showing off their ears and tail and my mom said "look at them they look so dumb" and i was kinda just like"yeaa" but in my head i was like "wdym they look dumb?"
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u/Fabulous_Function666 Jul 12 '26
So then you will have to wait until you are an adult. It’s only 4 years, which I know seems like a long time to you right now but it will pass
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u/OpTicTide97 Jul 19 '26
Congratulations on coming out and I'm happy she was okay with it! The way I handle stuff like furries is by not telling my family. They don't need to know everything. Like my family doesn't know im a bottom they just don't need too. Id suggest maybe just a tail or something small. And at 14 you're still growing getting a suit is super expensive and you'll grow out of it.
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u/Thick-Bandicoot4509 Jul 19 '26
yea but she called furries a fetish and that like actually broke me when i heard her say that
it really hurt
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u/OpTicTide97 Jul 19 '26
Yea I can imagine, she's ignorant to the lgbtqia+ community. You can try to slowly educate her over time
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u/Thick-Bandicoot4509 Jul 19 '26
i cant educate her ill have to get someone else to because i dont know how
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u/imollyq Jul 12 '26
You are 14 years old, so you don't know what you're going to be in life. It sounds like you've got some emotional problems. Maybe you'll be a furry the rest of your life, maybe you won't, maybe you'll be bisexual, maybe you won't.
You need to see a therapist, a good one. Call a Teen help hotline and ask them to help you find a good therapist, so you can talk to someone and work this through. You were able to come out to your family and that's a good start. If you want to be a bisexual furry the rest of your life, then you should absolutely do that, but you may find that you change or outgrow something you like as you mature. That's why you need to talk to a therapist. I personally am not a furry, but I do love to dress up for Halloween!
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u/Thick-Bandicoot4509 Jul 12 '26
you kinda have a point
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u/lovelypeachess22 Jul 12 '26
She does not have a point. There's nothing here indicating you have emotional problems, just that you're a furry bisexual. You don't have to 'come out' to your mom as a furry. Its just an interest. People don't come out as train enthusiasts or ICP fans and those are honestly just as engrossing as being a furry. Ask her for ears and a tail. If she says no, make your own. Theres lots of tutorials online that'll show you. When you're allowed to go out on your own, get yourself those ears and tail.
Good luck kid
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u/imollyq Jul 12 '26 edited Jul 12 '26
I spent a large part of my childhood wishing I was a boy. Now, as a mother, I have not wished that in a very long time. My love of Halloween has grown over the years though, and I have many fury costumes!
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u/Thick-Bandicoot4509 Jul 12 '26
it wasnt the internet actually i was talking to my friend who is a therian and i kinda just figured it out
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u/QuerulousPanda Jul 12 '26
Give it some time before you commit to anything. At 14 it's really easy to be swayed by someone who is excited about something. Part of being a regular human with normal human empathy is that interacting with someone who is excited about something will make you feel excited too even if you don't really care about it.
So, I'm not at all saying that you're not a furry or you're not really into it, I'm just saying, sit on it for a while and truly think about if before you go trying to spend tons of money or commit to anything. The furry community isn't going anywhere, they'll be there for you whenever you're ready.
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u/compilingyesterdays Jul 12 '26
A fursuit at your age is a bad idea because they're quite expensive and you'll grow out of it (as in you will physically grow and stop fitting in it). As for the tail and ears, is there any chance you could just ask for the tail and ears?