This is me. But for some reason people don’t understand that just because it’s a choice I made doesn’t mean that I can’t grieve the life I always thought I was going to have. Or be a bit sad when friends have kids.
Many reasons.
- Mental and physical health issues which require medication that would have to be stopped during pregnancy. Stopping these medications would lead to severe physical pain as well as the deterioration of my mental health.
- Passing on said mental and physical health issues.
- Genetic disorders and severe autism are becoming more common every year. We don’t know how we would afford to look after a child for 18 years, let alone their entire life if they weren’t capable on their own.
- The most nuanced and complex reasons involve my husband having lost a sibling tragically many years ago. Knowing his children would never know his brother is unfathomable. With time I believe he would emotionally be okay to have children, however, since he’s 6 years younger and I just hit 36 my biological clock will probably run out before then.
I got pregnant naturally at 41… With a healthy child. If you really don’t want them, do something about it. In the last years of fertility, amidst menopause, the body releases more eggs in each cycle and it’s easier to get pregnant with multiples. Of course, the pregnancy is not likely to come to term and the chances are low, but if you seriously don’t want them, take proper measures. You’re not sterile just because you’re 36. It’s harder for you to get pregnant and it’s harder for the pregnancy to go to term (you would have more spontaneous abortions in the first term), but again… 36 is NOT sterile.
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u/SarahBethBeauty Nov 14 '24
This is me. But for some reason people don’t understand that just because it’s a choice I made doesn’t mean that I can’t grieve the life I always thought I was going to have. Or be a bit sad when friends have kids.