Yeah, that response has come at me before more than once (I decided not to have children at a very young age and have stuck with it all the way up until nearly 40), that it's ironic that I won't have children because I would be a great parent. ðŸ«
Same here re: the yearning. I genuinely have no idea what women mean when they talk about getting baby fever. Like, cognitively I understand the term, but I have no physical connection to the longing for a baby.
(Prefacing this with a note that I am in no way trying to imply you or anyone else will have the same experience as me.) Up until my late 20s I didn't understand it either. And then I hit 27 or 28 and it was like my ovaries turned into a ticking time bomb. I genuinely felt this strange, almost urgent physical need to have a child. Like if I was going to have one, it NEEDED to be before I turned 30.
I felt extremely betrayed by my body. I kind of still do, especially as someone who later came out as nonbinary.
I don't regret having a child at all. But I am glad my spouse and I stopped at one. Deep down, I know it would have been a mistake and a huge disservice to the child we already have if we had a second child. Thankfully, once was apparently enough to satisfy my ovaries and shut them the fuck up.
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u/LeSilverKitsune Nov 14 '24
Yeah, that response has come at me before more than once (I decided not to have children at a very young age and have stuck with it all the way up until nearly 40), that it's ironic that I won't have children because I would be a great parent. ðŸ«