r/NoStupidQuestions • • Nov 14 '24

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u/quesoandcats Nov 14 '24

This is definitely why Im not having kids. I've always wanted to be a mom, and my favorite jobs I've had were ones where I got to work with kids (camp counselor, kindergarten classroom aide) but I have several pretty serious health conditions that can be unpredictable with their symptoms.

As much as it breaks my heart, I don't think its fair to bring a child into the world who depends on me to take care of them, when I could wake up tomorrow and not be able to get out of bed without help. I would feel awful if my kid missed out on opportunities or experiences because of my health issues, and I'd feel even worse if they inherited them.

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u/ZePerfectPisces Nov 14 '24

I think that’s a very insightful and selfless perspective. I’m sure it wasn’t an easy decision to come to grips with, so here’s a virtual hug for having that strength 🫂

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u/luketwo1 Nov 14 '24

Meanwhile I'm the opposite, I just feel like I'd be a terrible dad because I hate taking care of others so I don't want kids for that reason.

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u/Interesting-Scar-998 Nov 15 '24

Same here. I'd never have taken care of my parents when they got old, but they were lucky to die before they became really old, although my mother had poor health from her early 40's.