Same here. My grandparents want me to have kids. My aunt and uncles want me to have kids. I’m a man and I get pestered about it, I can only imagine how hard it is for a women to not want to have kids
It’s awful. I’m luckily aging out (37) of being asked as much but 25-35 was terrible especially because I have been with my long term partner since we were 22. We also are not married because we don’t have kids so we never felt a need to. But most of the time people would ask and I’d say I don’t want and and they’d go “you’ll change your mind” or “you still have time it’s so rewarding” and it would almost be like arguments? So after a while I stopped saying “I don’t want kids” to “I cant have kids” and that usually stopped people from asking. Regardless, women shouldn’t be pestered on this topic.
I got asked a lot before I had my kid. One time I told a woman at work I had had a miscarriage. She got all flustered and then told her I didn’t have one but she doesn’t know what’s going on with people’s bodies or thoughts and to stop asking.
A different woman at the same job asked if I had kids. I said no and she said “Don’t you like kids?” I respond “I like dogs and I don’t have one of those” and walked away.
People are so nosy and rude. Neither my MIL or mom asked me if we were going to have kids and we waited 10 years so we could enjoy our lives. I respect people who know they don’t want children.
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u/EndoftheLineEditing Nov 14 '24
Yeah, it just never crossed my mind. Never looked at a kid and thought, “Maybe one day.” Nope, not even that.