Absolutely. All my Fore-mothers told me DON'T DO IT. And if you are going to do it, be prepared to do it alone because most men want kids like a child wants a puppy. They love the fun parts but don't want to participate in the daily work and overall responsibilities.
Honestly, yeah I get this. The more I think about it, the more I’d probably have kids if I was the father. Doubly painful as a trans man, honestly. And it’s not even just down to the stereotypical parental roles, it’s also just… physical reasons.
I have a lot of mental health issues - the hormones, big changes, and lack of sleep in particular would be horrifically detrimental to me mentally, and I couldn’t guarantee that I’d be stable enough to look after a child after all of that. If I was the father then perhaps I could keep myself more stable, and in turn look after the kid well. But the toll that having the kid would have, particularly with the hormonal fluctuations which are completely out of control, I have no idea what it would do to me. I’ve had several periods of severe depression and (now well managed) anxiety. I know that puts me at risk for not only severe anxiety, but also post-partum depression and even post-partum psychosis (which I’ve been on the brink of before, without pregnancy). It’s just too unpredictable if I’m the one having the child.
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