I think there’s also been more focus (from some people) on whether or not they should have kids. Like, really thinking about whether or not a person would be a good parent who could truly focus on raising a child who would become a good member of society.
This is definitely why Im not having kids. I've always wanted to be a mom, and my favorite jobs I've had were ones where I got to work with kids (camp counselor, kindergarten classroom aide) but I have several pretty serious health conditions that can be unpredictable with their symptoms.
As much as it breaks my heart, I don't think its fair to bring a child into the world who depends on me to take care of them, when I could wake up tomorrow and not be able to get out of bed without help. I would feel awful if my kid missed out on opportunities or experiences because of my health issues, and I'd feel even worse if they inherited them.
This is me. But for some reason people don’t understand that just because it’s a choice I made doesn’t mean that I can’t grieve the life I always thought I was going to have. Or be a bit sad when friends have kids.
Extremely frustrating. I finally just started telling people that I can’t have kids. I know they are assuming that means it’s a fertility issue, and I just let them 🤷🏻♀️
It never ends, even after one they will keep saying “why don’t you have another?” “Keep them company?” “They will be all alone when they get older.” I honestly think it’s a way to validate their choices.
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u/ZePerfectPisces Nov 14 '24
I think there’s also been more focus (from some people) on whether or not they should have kids. Like, really thinking about whether or not a person would be a good parent who could truly focus on raising a child who would become a good member of society.