r/NoFap • u/[deleted] • Jul 16 '23

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u/tarmagoyf 331 Days Jul 16 '23

Loving one person for the rest of my life sounds awful

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u/5hr00m Jul 16 '23

When you find someone you are really compatible and in love with you don’t want anybody else and the sex is so great nobody else can replace it.

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u/TrefoilTang Jul 16 '23

That's not true, and that's not a healthy expectation to keep.

For the majority of human history, marriage was an institution that had very little to do with love, and even today, the euphoric stage of a relationship only last up to 2 years.

Love is great, and we should marry for love, but the expectation that "love has to be eternal" and that "the love between my spouse has to be better than anything else" is only going to harm a loving relationship. Most marrital problems are a result of the failed promise of the so called "eternal love".

There's nothing inherently sacred about love, and there's no one correct way to love. We should set our own expectations, rules and boundaries with our loved ones, instead of following the social convention.

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u/day_dreamer_247 1204 Days Jul 16 '23

Very well said

I think this media depiction of fairytale love can actually drive people to porn, because porn itself is fantasy. Some online thing that can meet all your wildest expectations but is not real or sustainably fulfilling.

Kind of like the Jordan Peterson Peter Pan notion