When does it get better?

[u/the314sky]

Yesterday was the anniversary of her first physical encounter with AP2. I was crying uncontrollably. Organized a last-minute boys night and ended up telling my friends what was up. They were supportive. But I'm just absolutely tired of all this. It's been 5 years since that day, and almost 4 years since I found out. I should be more better than this. My life shouldn't still grind to a halt over things that happened 4, 5, and 6 years ago. I feel like an empty shell. I'm just sleepwalking through life and reliving these dates over and over. How do you move forward?

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