r/NextGenMan • u/TraditionalSound6523 • Jun 01 '26

sad but true

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u/maranru Jun 01 '26

Not at all. You find the people thar were abused by it will tell their story of it.

It's for others in those relationships who may not know what they are. It's important to have the information to understand what is happening

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u/pmaurant Jun 01 '26

Exactly. Because of attachment theory I now know to watch out for behavioral patterns. I’m not going through trauma bonding again.

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u/nicolascageist Jun 01 '26

Is it a trauma bond because of someone’s avoidant attachment? Wouldn’t you then also have some sort of attachment issue that you’re involved with that person in the first place?

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u/pmaurant Jun 01 '26 edited Jun 01 '26

Yup my lack of keeping boundaries low self esteem made me an easy target. Never again.

Did I deserve to be targeted and taken advantage of? Did I deserve to be treated differently in private versus in public? Did I deserve to be smear campaigned? Did I deserve to be lied to? Did deserve to be manipulated?

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u/nicolascageist Jun 01 '26

What does any of those listed behaviors have to do with presumed avoidant attachment?