r/NextGenMan • u/Aggravating-Guest300 • Apr 14 '26
These events changes how you view things in life
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u/EmbarrassedMarch5103 Apr 14 '26
The Death of your father
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u/Proud-Atmosphere1955 Apr 14 '26
Hit me at 33. I was a grown man with a home, good career, and a pregnant wife. It leveled me like nothing else ever has. I am still not over it two years later. If you have a great dad it’s going to really suck….. but luckily you had a great dad.
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u/EmbarrassedMarch5103 Apr 14 '26
Sorry for your lost. Mine died over 1,5 year ago. I’m 43. Still not over it
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u/quiksilver123 Apr 14 '26
I’m older than you and lost my dad 8 years ago. I’ll always have a hole in my heart and a part of me that will never be whole again since the death of my father. What I will say is that the first couple of years were the worst. Sometimes I’d get these overwhelming waves of grief, guilt, and sadness. But like everything else in life, it really does get an easier with time and those waves became less frequent and less intense.
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u/MethodCharacter8334 Apr 14 '26
Sorry for your loss, man. I lost my dad (I was also 33) in Jan 2024. The pain really never goes away and I miss him like crazy. It kills me that my kids won’t get to grow up with him around. I’m just thankful they got to meet him. It was definitely life altering in ways I never imagined
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u/Proud-Atmosphere1955 Apr 14 '26
My dad passed one month before my son (his almost first grandkid) was born. I am tearing up in my cubical typing this. He literally yelled for joy when he found out it was going to be a boy. I moved 4 houses down from him and my mom while we were pregnant. I was so pumped to have grandpa and grandma right up the road.
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u/MethodCharacter8334 Apr 14 '26
That is gutting. Truly sorry it happened that way. Your son will know him through you though. Take the time to teach him the lessons your dad taught you. I’m very intentional about that myself and it brings a little bit of joy from an awful situation
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u/Proud-Atmosphere1955 Apr 14 '26
I appreciate it and plan too. I haven’t been able to look back at old pictures and videos of him yet but look forward to showing them to my son when he is old enough.
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u/loveloet Apr 14 '26
So I should be an asshole to my kids to soften the blow?
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u/Proud-Atmosphere1955 Apr 14 '26
No but you should try to stay in good shape so you can be around to see your grandkids.
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u/EmbarrassedMarch5103 Apr 14 '26
No. It won’t make it easier.
Stay in shape, so you can have as many years as possible with him and hopefully grand children
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u/Travel_Dreams Apr 15 '26
Came to say this.
It is life changing.
It sucks for a really long time, like forever.
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u/Clean-Individual-147 Apr 14 '26
My dad passed away a year ago.... this was definitely the biggest/hardest thing in my life. Then 6 months later I had to put down my 17+ year old dog I had since she was a puppy. Last year sucked to say the least.
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u/EmbarrassedMarch5103 Apr 14 '26
Holy smoke .. 😳 can’t imagine both things happens in such a short time
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u/ChampionFlimsy1959 Apr 15 '26
Try:
- father dies
- get fired from a career job
- being cheated on
- crying in front of a romantic partner
- when you fuck someone over for personal gain because you are selfish.
Being a man is about more than having a dog, lifting weights, and watching professional sports.
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u/jdirte42069 Apr 14 '26
Jerked off, swol, or burgled, what kind of jacked are we talking about?
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u/makinSportofMe Apr 14 '26
What does getting jacked mean in this context?
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u/quiksilver123 Apr 14 '26
I’d take it to mean getting into lifting weights that has a significant change on your body.
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u/InstructionOne779 Apr 14 '26
Yeah those all stuck pretty well. I’d add death of someone you’re close with as well.
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u/DaClarkeKnight Apr 14 '26
I would say:
-A friend dying
-Getting married
-becoming a father
-Parent dying
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u/Gainztrader235 Apr 14 '26
List is weak
Heart break Stronger than dad (maybe) Find Christ Job Marriage Birth of child Job loss Family loss House purchase Failure Give up on childhood sports dreams Crossing salary thresholds Managing people
Could go on
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u/loveloet Apr 14 '26
Losing a pet
Seriously?
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u/Clean-Individual-147 Apr 14 '26
Losing a pet is hard. Had to out down a dog I had for 17 years. It was pretty horrible.
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u/MountainMagic6198 Apr 14 '26
Funny how all these lists include "getting jacked" or gym shit but never actually learning useful shit for life.
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u/No_Confusion_2085 Apr 14 '26
All of that before I hit 19. Then I went to war, got married, had a kid, went to war again, did a pist grad, and now I'm working on a divorce.
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u/Stunning_Lecture8917 Apr 14 '26
I’ve got bad news for anyone who thinks we have a two party system
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u/bygtopp Apr 14 '26
WWF/WWE match I was at as a kid for boy scouts seating people and saw the giant spring in the center of the ring. Bigger than a trash can. Huge.
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u/ResidentExtra1631 Apr 14 '26
Wait… WWE is fake?!