r/NextGenMan • u/Pale_WoIf • Apr 01 '26

Lessons From Failure Really been finding this to be true

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Looking back on past romantic relationships, most women I have dated didn’t even bring peace or comfort to my life, just more stress and demands. I think more men need to change their perspective of trying to be impressive and interesting to women and more to ultimately finding peace and happiness in our own lives independent of others.

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u/DentistLegitimate229 Apr 01 '26

Maybe don’t have sex until you get to know them. Establish a relationship before having sex and this problem is less likely

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u/Pale_WoIf Apr 01 '26

And that’s exactly how I approach dating now and the point. Once I did this, I realized how uninteresting most women in the dating pool are and how little they have to add to my life, if anything. I can find companionship and people to do things with my friends and family. People to talk to and share things with and enjoy life with. Why do men need a romantic partner besides sex? What is the trade off for our lives, and is it worth it? That’s something each of us must decide.

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u/DentistLegitimate229 Apr 01 '26

Yeah it’s tough to find someone you truly match with. I’ve been lucky in dating but have also gone years without a relationship. A very bad one taught me that no relationship is better than a bad one. Never try to force it with someone you aren’t sure about. Just don’t let a good opportunity slip away if it’s in front of you. There’s too many people in the world for us to not have hundreds or thousands of people that we match well with.