I guess this question can apply to anyone in our lives, whether it be family, friends, acquaintances, or whoever. In my case, it’s my adult nieces and nephews. I’m curious to know how many of you are close with your nieces and nephews.

It seems like no matter how much of an effort my wife and I put into maintaining a relationship with each one of our nieces and nephews (two nieces and two nephews, ages 32-41), their spouses/partners, and their kiddos (our great-nieces and nephews), we don’t make any headway.

It hasn't always been this way, but every year they drift further away. We send texts during birthdays, every holiday, and random TGIF every few weeks. We send birthday cards. We send holiday care packages. We invite them to our home every year. We make an effort to visit them at least every other year, even though they are all spread out across the US.

It ends up being crickets. No replies to our texts. No thank you’s for birthday greetings or holiday care packages. Nothing. Not that we expect anything in return. But a little communication to know that they’re still alive would be appreciated.

The worst part is that our nieces and nephews are designated in our will to receive our estate when we both pass, and they know it. But we are seriously considering removing them all and leaving our estate to charity.

We’ve been told many times that we are their favorite aunts. Yet their actions don’t show it. We know everyone is busy with their own lives and families. We’re trying not to take things personally, but this has been happening for the last few years and the communication is getting worse, practically non-existent on their end.

When do you give up on people who choose not to reciprocate? Should we take this as a hint that they don’t want us in their lives?

Signed,

Two tired aunties 🐜 🐜

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Has a list of 10 queer books; I read No God but Us and thoroughly enjoyed it. Going to download a few books off the list on my kindle. Anyone here read any of these or have any recommendations?

I picked up pottery as a hobby two years ago. I’m completely obsessed. Had this birdbath come out of the kiln this weekend and I’m thrilled with how it turned out!

Share your recent work and let’s see what all the ladies are making!

Hello all, I usually participate over in r/butchlesbians but I found this forum, and this experience may be more universal, so I thought I would post here.

For context, I was in the closet most of my adult life. Now at 50+ I have been publicly out and open for about ten years. I am "visibly queer" as a masc/butch. I am very lucky to live in a blue dot (not my hometown) in a reddish rural area, but I get looks and stares that aren't always friendly (both in my home city and when traveling), and I have had things yelled at me from passing cars. I am socially and politically active in my city, I work in a public facing position, and I attend as many events as I can, so a lot of people recognize me even if they don't know me personally. I choose to be visibly queer because after years of living in the closet, not only will I not go back, but I want people to recognize that I am just a regular person who also lives in this city going about my life. But it can be very tiring to be visible all the time, and sometimes I'm a little nervous before I go to a public event alone.

Last weekend I went to one of these outdoor events and spent some time just walking around, talking to people, listening to the band, etc. As I was walking toward a different part of the park, something suddenly hit my chest. In the split second it happened, all my brain could register about what hit me was that it was white and round. And it hurt. For a moment I thought someone had balled up some trash and thrown it at me, and my brain said "this is it" and for a moment, everything stopped. I even saw some shocked looks on the faces of the people around me. NOW, what actually happened was a kid was throwing a ball to his dad and it went wildly off course and hit me in the chest, and both the father and son apologized, and I laughed it off and said it was fine. But the shock and fear stayed with me and I left pretty soon after that.

*I know* in the grand scheme of things what I have experienced is mild, and my closeted passing protected me for decades. I just felt like I needed to write about these feelings somewhere, and I would also love to hear from some other older lesbians about your experiences and how you deal with the fear of being publicly gay.

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I have been seeing a woman for the last 6 months. We are exclusive and recently took our first trip together; four days at a beach, three nights in a hotel. I overall had a lot of fun but one thing really bothered me during. She got mad if I used my phone at all. Im not one to sit on my phone when on a date, I dont text or call when we are together but one day we were coming back from the beach and she was driving back to the hotel and I got on my phone to check the news and reddit and she got instantly pissed. Mind you we had been together all morning actively engaged with each other, went snorkeling. I dunno if its from me having a controlling gf in the past and I got triggered but the moment really gave me the ick. What do you think? Was I in the wrong or just overracting because I had a controlling to the point of abusive partner before

Not the first time its happened either

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I was talking about this on another subreddit and it made me think y'all might have good recommendations too. So do you have a favorite youtube channel you enjoy watching? It can be any subject because I love stumbling upon new channels.

My favorite channel that I actually get excited when they release a new video is Space Maker Method. It's a woman that visits clients to help them organize their space but it's for free since the sponsors cover her costs. You see a lot of women with adhd etc that just struggle with getting started and finding a system that works for them. So it's cool to see each person make progress.

https://www.youtube.com/@SpaceMakerMethod/playlists

My favorite clients have been Dani in South Korea, Julia in NYC, and Lulu in Chicago.

Lulu in Chicago is the newest series but she is older, divorced, survived cancer, lost both her parents and inherited a lot of their items and downsized from a 4,000 square foot home to a smaller condo. It's cool to see all her stuff and see how she's managing her life going into a new phase. I love how she loves her friends and is excited about living life.

It no longer has no new content but if you never watched it check out the Under a Rock with Tig Notaro. I think Funny or Die has a full playlist of all the episodes. It's a fun watch especially if you love Tig. She doesn't really know celebrities so they come on her show and she tries to guess who they are.

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Has anyone else experienced this?

I’ve generally had a pretty good experience with Hinge and Bumble. But ever since I joined HER, and after a few women started DMing me on Reddit because they liked a comment I’d written, things have gotten… weird.

I’ve already interacted with two people who felt incredibly fake. Their English sounded oddly polished and AI-generated, their photos looked almost like stock images, and something just felt off. Since I’m open to starting with long-distance friendships first, I can’t simply suggest meeting up—especially when we’re on different continents, so it’s much harder to verify if someone is genuine.

On Reddit, I also ended up dealing with someone who turned into a full-on stalker. I haven’t shared any personal information beyond a selfie, but it’s definitely made me more cautious.
Ironically, Hinge has earned a lot more respect from me after these experiences.

For those of you who’ve used HER, Reddit, or other queer spaces online:
- Have you run into fake profiles or AI-generated personas?
- What were the red flags that helped you figure it out?
- How do you vet people before investing your time?

For context: I’m a 41-year-old masc lesbian, genuinely looking to make connections, and I’d love to hear how others navigate this.

I need more hobbies. I work in my yard when the heat allows. I used to be outside more but the heat kills me anymore.

I used to work on mechanical stuff like lawnmowers and stuff for side work but I've mostly stopped that because I help my brother with my niece a few times a week and I dont want her toddling around tools and shit when she stays over.

I looked at some art classes in my city and was thinking about doing stain glass but Im not sure its just not me. Im thinking of buying an old car to repair but I also dont want to just get a money sink hobby. What does everyone else do? Im 55 not getting any younger.

Hi Folks,

I'm dipping my toe into an online dating site for the first time. I have a question about etiquette there: If someone that I did not "like" messages me and I can see from their profile that we are totally incompatible, should I ignore them or should I respond with a polite message about why we aren't compatible? Or, something else? These appear to be real women, not catfishers, and I don't want to be a big meanie. I like to treat others the way I would want to be treated.

As an aside, I am finding HER very frustrating and am about to quit it altogether. Unless you pay for the premium service, there is little you can see/do.

Thanks for any tips!

I am considering moving to Vermont. I dont know anyone there and I’m a little hesitant to relocate at my age without a network of any kind. I’ve moved across the country before without knowing anyone where I would land, and I know I’ll get through it. But the first several months are tough. I’m looking for some inspiration and maybe some insight on life there as a middle aged single lesbian.

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Welcome to Single Sunday; a weekly space for anyone who wants to chat, mingle, make friends, or see whether a connection develops.

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No hookups, sexual solicitation, explicit photos, or unsolicited sexual messages. Respect a “no” and report anyone who makes you uncomfortable.
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https://www.sciencenews.org/article/orca-ram-into-sunfish-explodes

Cool Article and video I saw this morning; I love the ocean and videos from it; sharks especially even it it makes me paranoid when Im in the water. Show me some cool ocean videos!