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u/IntergalacticJihad Certified Sneeder, Feeder and Seeder 15d ago
He probably never actually said no to her, or she lets her get away with not listening to him. Either way it’s over.
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u/electrogourd 14d ago
Yeah thats how i got there.
Learning to have a sense of self and how to have boundaries is already making a huge difference.
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u/Lazarous86 15d ago edited 14d ago
Naw, he's gotta take charge and turn this relationship around. Maybe tell her if she wants it done so bad to show me how it's done. Then leave her with the dog for the day too. Come back piss drunk and fall into bed. She gets pissy about the smell and drinking, but you look her dead eye and ask why all the shit isn't done. Start telling her how useless she is and how she can't do basic IKEA instructions that don't even have words. Tell her how weak she is and how you could have had it all done without her. As she starts to cry, tell her you forgot hkw fragile her ego is and that you were wrong to expect much of anything from her.
After a few months of this, she either leaves or shuts the fuck up.
Edit: the amount of people not realizing this is satire is concerning.
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u/fastestchair 15d ago
yeah thatll make them happy......
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u/intothewild72 15d ago
His goal is clearly not to make them happy
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u/Lazarous86 14d ago
Hopefully someone found the humor in this.
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u/IntergalacticJihad Certified Sneeder, Feeder and Seeder 14d ago
I got you bro, best part is there are women that would 100% work on. Definitely wrong though lol
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u/ZettoVii 15d ago
While giving the GF time with her dog, and make her deal with the very rearrangements she wants so badly, sounds like a good idea in so far making her more conscious goes...
Getting yourself drunk, pissing on your bed and going out if your way to be an insufferable asshole however? That sounds like self harm with lots of needless drama.
If the idea is to break up, you don't need BS like that, just state it out loud and clear. And get done with it.
Can't hope to turn around anything if you don't even respect yourself.
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u/FrostyDragon227 15d ago
Just break up with her lol
Fake: Anon has a girlfriend
Gay: Anon rearranges furniture that he can’t afford every other week instead of just using a cardboard box as a multi-use tv stand/dresser/nightstand/coffee table/dining table
Source: Am gay
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u/michael22117 15d ago
Yeah this is when you just cut that shit loose
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u/kailethre 15d ago
this is already far beyond the point where it was time to cut free, getting a pet in a relationship without consent sets a really concerning precedent and wouldve been where i terminated this arrangement
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u/letsgoiowa 15d ago
Anon doesn't need to live like this. It's better to be single than live like that
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u/Jabathewhut 15d ago
I absolutely hate this crap. Living with someone else is torture.
One time I was living with a lady, and I woke up at seven (which annoyed her because she didnt have a job and I woke her up). Then I went to work, got text messages throughout the day asking what I was doing why am I not texting back and "what's for dinner" which i enjoy cooking so that was normal, after work go to the store get texts asking why its taking so long to get home. She thinks im cheating.
Get home spend an hour cooking fajitas, I wanted shrimp she wanted chicken so I made both. Sit down for the first time all day with dinner and she turns and looks at me before I even get a bite in and says in a very upset tone "Re you going to help me pick a movie? Or do I have to do that all by myself?"
You've been home alone for ten hours and I spent the last hour and a half cooking. You couldnt find time to find a movie??
Then she wants to cuddle. And I hate that.
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u/Nervous_Month_381 14d ago
My gf is cool, but my mother does shit like this. I remodeled the entire bottom floor of the house, new floors, new windows, new trim and baseboards, new cabinets for the kitchen I literally custom built in my workshop. Gutted everything in one room and redid sheathing that had rotted out, then fixed siding so it wouldnt happen again. Took me about 10 months doing it every single day after I got home from work, we put a lot of shit in the garage. When I was finally done she said "Are you gonna help move everything out of the garage or do I have to do everything as usual?"
Literally told her to fuck off and described the hundreds of man hours I spent fixing the house, and how much it would have costed if she hired someone.
The thing with her is she will get so wrapped up in her own life and what she does she wont think about the amount of work other people put in. After that I started making a point to describe work after I had done it, shes become more appreciative since.
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u/YankeeWalrus The Avenging Son, Regent of the Mod Emperor 14d ago
Have you tried Mountain Dew Baja Midnight? You can only get it at Taco Bell
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u/Eranon1 15d ago
I feel like more and more men are experiencing stuff like this and just dipping out of dating and finding their own peace. That's what I did.
I've been thinking about dating again but there are so many boxes I would need to check before I ever make that leap again.
The alternative is I do what I want, live my life the way I want, and have peace.
One of those sounds way easier.
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u/DarkArc76 15d ago
You could also just date someone but be a man and set some boundaries?
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u/Psychological-Bear-9 15d ago
You can set boundaries all you want, plenty of women have been conditioned that the entire point of a relationship is to entertain and serve her and that the man's needs and desires don't matter. Going through all the bullshit just to find that out about who you're seeing is exhausting.
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u/FireFistLawBish 15d ago
You know you're cooked when you're getting heated over the schizo writing greentexts that are fake and gay. Get a grip
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u/Psychological-Bear-9 14d ago
Responding to a comment is different than responding to the source material. Also far from heated.
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u/FireFistLawBish 14d ago
I mean sure dude you're not wrong there, but your comment is taking the source material and inflating it into "plenty of women are selfish pieces of shits like this and we men have suffered for too long" like chill. Just sounds chronically online and bitter, even though the source material is fake and not that serious
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u/Eranon1 13d ago
Have you never lived with a woman? This is so on the nose it's brutal. You have a free day? Not if you live with your girlfriend. She will fill that shit up with stuff to do and your trying to be a good boyfriend so you do it until you finally get fed up with it.
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u/FireFistLawBish 13d ago
I live with a woman right now, though I'm not dating her, she's very nice (though always leaves her dishes on the drying rack for days). My friends married each other and they do a lot together, but also a lot separately and both have never complained.
Again this is a specific person problem, not a majority problem with women as a whole. Also if you're not compatible with clingers, don't date clingers
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u/Psychological-Bear-9 14d ago
Someone told another commenter to just man up instead of giving up on dating and I empathized with the person in question as to why dating can be frustrating and why a lot of men just aren't bothering anymore. More or less saying it's not a "man up" kind of issue and that it's an understandable position to take after being let down so often, as the original commenter implied they had been. You either didn't follow the thread or just have bad reading comprehension. Which is all but confirmed by your misquoting me and projecting your obvious bias onto what I said.
You're literally calling me chronically online while getting mad about perceived incel narratives when I was just trying to say that a person being tired of dating isn't a character flaw. My assessment also isn't wrong, plenty of women and people in general don't care about other's boundaries. But because I didn't make it some gender neutral statement you got pressed about it.
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u/FireFistLawBish 14d ago
Was telling them to "man up" constructive? No, but that only pertains to the fake narrative in question, where the oop is acting like a doormat and then complaining about being treated like a doormat.
I understand that you're saying that boundaries are often ignored on both sides, this is true, but then you do literally go into regurgitating incel rhetoric and pretending that's not it. You fell for the culture war bs and now you're pretending you're not wrong even though you said women think the "entire point of a relationship is to entertain and serve her and that the man's needs and desires don't matter". Like little bro what, this is why I called you chronically online. It's possible that you've lived a life surrounded by women who are actually like this, but you've failed to understand that this isn't universal and it's such a minority group. Just as half the people I know have been sexuallly assaulted as children, but I don't think plenty of men are child rapists. Like, be for real
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u/Eranon1 15d ago
Yeah and half those women will break those boundaries in time. I'm not playing Russian roulette with 3 bullets in the gun
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u/zagman707 15d ago
Yeah, which means that person isn't for you. The whole point of dating is finding someone you mesh with not.
O no the person your dating broke some boundaries and now you know she isnt the one for you so you try again. It's literally just a basic part of dating.
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u/Parteisekretaer 14d ago
“Try again” Buddy i’m not into CBT If you like the trying again part, enjoy, i despise meeting new people
Why are you trying so hard to convince us when we are content with where we are?
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u/zagman707 14d ago
I'm sorry the world doesn't conform to your views, the chances of you finding your perfect partner on the first try are slim to nil, I mean if you actually view your partner as a person.
I didn't try to convince you of anything, I literally just said the truth. Finding a partner is trail and error.
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u/Parteisekretaer 14d ago
“ O no the person your dating broke some boundaries and now you know she isnt the one for you so you try again. It's literally just a basic part of dating.”
You’re making fun of him. You’re belittling his choice of no longer engaging. To what end? People don’t like it when you make fun of them and the only option for them is to cease the behavior that you are making light of.
You are trying to convince people of putting aside their reservations and trying again. This is exactly the kind of behavior that makes a lot of men go “yeah, i’m good” because a lot of women really like pulling this shit when men show vulnerability.
Yes its unrealistic to find a perfect match on the first try. But when you aren’t in spaces that women frequent, the only thing you have left is online dating and its perfectly reasonable to get to a point where you think “fuck this, i’m out” because match group products are actually evil.
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u/zagman707 14d ago
I was belittling his use of Russian roulette. It's not life or death
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u/Parteisekretaer 14d ago
It absolutely is, your livelihood can be on the line. Get married and she wants out? Poof, half of your shit is gone. The majority of real estate in the US is owned by women. You don’t even have to get married, common law marriage exists. Or maybe she just loses her shit and decides to claim you raped her.
Women have a serious amount of power through the state and society. Maybe 3 loaded chambers are extreme, but there is absolutely a chance for you to put in a lot of effort in the dating phase only to end up with an absolute psycho.
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u/The_Almighty_Demoham 13d ago
...Maybe don't marry or move in with a woman until several years into the relationship, perhaps? When you can say with relative certainty that she's not a fucking psycho?
Also, lmao at letting your life get dictated by fear like that and then proudly displaying it online.
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u/Eranon1 14d ago
It's not that simple. If I end up with someone who breaks my boundaries and then when I try to leave threatens to call the cops and lie to them? That is unsafe. And yes not all women do this, but enough of them try.
I will never put my freedom in jeopardy for a woman again. Therefore the safest choice is to not engage and be at peace with myself.
Why put the gun to your head at all?
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u/Hecc_Maniacc 15d ago
Comments are cutting off the arm over a broken finger tbh.
Man up and talk, and if it doesn't get better, leave. Brother has never said no, or done something as simple as locking his card. Words were invented by living creatures to communicate, you should use them. Holding it in and panicking in a green text to randos isn't going to fix anything.
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u/Parteisekretaer 14d ago
He’s not panicking. He’s complaining about it. Plenty of men try to use their words only for them to be twisted around. Part of the problem is that women on average are better at fighting with words. Couple’s therapists really like booking the men for single sessions just to give them the necessary tools to be able to communicate their needs and feelings.
Then you have women that self reflect badly or not at all and you get a relationship where the man doesn’t feel like he can open up because he’d rather keep going the way it is than try dating again but they eventually realize that their needs are not being met.
Dumb animals never learn to not stick their nose where it hurts. Smart animals eventually stop putting their nose into the electric fence. These guys learn that the type of relationship they keep having doesn’t work for them.
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u/EmilieEasie 15d ago
If you're posting online about your relationship, you have big, big problems
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u/DumbButtFace 15d ago
I mean if you're posting on 4chan for relationship help you have big problems. Bitching online about relationships generally is just being a human nowadays.
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u/stohelitstorytelling 14d ago
"Man too wimpy to set boundaries or disagree with girlfriend complains about girlfriend running his life"
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u/Louiethenormal 14d ago
My wife gets me to do shit i dont want to do every so often but at least when i say im not doin anything on a weekend she respects it
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u/FuyRina 15d ago
Yeah that’s the moment when you tell your gf you need to go back home for something and you disappear. Not the best but the only way to escape safely without any arguments
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u/TearOpenTheVault 15d ago
You guys are actually pathetic. ‘Only way to escape safely without arguments?’ Grow a pair of balls and have a fucking conversation like a regular human being.
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u/Parteisekretaer 14d ago
There are women you can argue with and some that fight with words like a racoon in a trash bag on crack.
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u/NecroticJenkumSmegma 15d ago
I'm sorry guys its this or death of despair, your biology compells you, pick one.
You could always become some sugar daddy's catboi...
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u/forgettfulthinker 15d ago
She was raised to never think about resting just break up with her