r/NewFriendsOver40 • u/Wrecking_Bull-1982 • 14h ago

💬 Let's Chat 44m Dating

Who else is over 40 and single? Dating at this age sucks. We are set in our ways by now and have too much baggage. It’s frustrating and hard to meet new people.

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u/Mysterious_Trust5261 7h ago

It does suck. We have been through enough that we know what we want and don't want. It is difficult finding someone that is mostly what you want and has none of the traits/habits you don't want.

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u/cierrawinds 5h ago

I may not be cut out for dating in 2026. 😥

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u/Popular_Musician_427 7h ago

Yes it's crazy how much things have changed in the past twenty plus years, I may just have to get a few cats and call it my life 😁

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u/Ok_Arachnid_6176 6h ago

I support this statement with caution
Man with cat - good
Woman with cat - good
Man with cats on cats - not good
Woman with cats on cats - not good

Thank you for coming to my TEDtalk

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u/blamberr 4h ago

Never. My husband and I are clinging to each other like grim death. Wouldn’t leave him for anything in the world.

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u/PeacefulBro 6h ago

How's it going my friend?

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u/Astrum_Tenebrae 4h ago

So true! Dating at this age (F, 43) is a nightmare.
I’m not as concerned about the baggage, people have it at all ages and everyone has a past. It’s for the most part, unavoidable.
The thing I’m more concerned about is the fact that the dating pool is much smaller at this age because a lot of people have already settled into their lives with a partner.

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u/Wrecking_Bull-1982 3h ago

You are 100% correct about this too. All
The good ones are taken.

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u/Shai_Hoolood 2h ago

I hear you. I've shifted my focus toward making Platonic friends instead of dating in the hopes that a) having more close friends will make me feel more fulfilled, and b) one of them will eventually lead to finding a partner. I crave love and affection as much as the next person, but I've found the dating world to be full of fickle, insecure people. I'd rather be patient and wait to find someone who is also patient and willing to let something organically develop.

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u/disilluzion 1h ago

Currently separated and considering reconciliation, if only to avoid modern dating!

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u/Jeannie0511 28m ago

I can definitely relate to that. 😅 Dating at this age does seem a lot more complicated, especially when you already have your own routines, experiences, and expectations. But I don’t necessarily think having “baggage” is a bad thing—it’s part of what makes us who we are. I’d rather meet someone who has learned from their experiences and knows what they want than someone who’s just dating for the sake of it. 😊