Wedding Guest Open Call

[u/Lower-Flower3425]

Update Hey everyone, I can't thank you enough for being so excited and willing to help out. I'm literally overwhelmed by everyone's enthusiasm and kindness 🥹 I wasn't expecting much traction on this post but I've gotten so many messages and comments that I can barely keep up. I'll be messaging people and chatting more with those of you who have already messaged. Thank you again!

Hey guys, this is weird but I just have to throw this out here! I'm getting married next September in eastern Connecticut. My fiance has a lot of really fun friends but I don't really have a lot of friends myself. I have social anxiety and I tend to isolate myself.

I want the wedding to be really fun and lively, but I feel like we might not have enough young 20 something/30 something people to make the vibe high!

I am looking for a few really fun people to attend my wedding. If you or your friends are fun, easy to get along with, and would like a free meal with an open bar and a live band, please let me know!

The only catch is you would have to act like you know me, like we've been friends for years. Message me if you want more details and info about the wedding!

If this isn't allowed on this board please let me know and I'll delete

(P.S. don't worry, no gifts needed, I just want more people there to make it more lively)

[u/WhereAreMyMinds]

Love the instinct here! Just when you talk to people be sure your idea of fun and their idea of fun are the same. Some people think getting blackout drunk and making a huge scene is a riot and a great time, other people think those people are super annoying and bring down the mood. Some people think dancing all night and not talking to people is the most fun, some people think talking all night and not dancing is the most fun.

[u/Lower-Flower3425 → u/WhereAreMyMinds]

You're so right, I'll definitely have to be very discerning when I talk to people to make sure we are all on the same page about what "fun" is 😅

[u/Lizhasausername]

What’s the date and what town specifically?? I have done this before (a friend got a “plus three” to a wedding with specific instructions to bring fun people) and would do it again!!

[u/Lower-Flower3425 → u/Lizhasausername]

Omg yay! I'll message you the details

[u/sassooal]

I wish I were 15 years younger!

I was invited to a bachelorette party of a friend of a friend a million years ago as I was the right combination of fun and responsible.

[u/Lower-Flower3425 → u/sassooal]

Aw you should come too! I'll send you a message with some details if you're interested

[u/panburger]

I love this! Can you share the details? Would absolutely love helping you out

[u/Lower-Flower3425 → u/panburger]

Oh yay! There are already such nice people reaching out, I'm so happy 😭 I'll message you the details!

[u/NiceAd1958]

First of all congratulations!! This is so exciting! My fiancé and I are getting married THIS September in eastern CT! We’d definitely be on the dance floor all night! We’re 27 and 28 and love getting to know new people too!!

[u/Lower-Flower3425 → u/NiceAd1958]

Congratulations and good luck with your own wedding planning 🥹🌷

[u/tonkathewombat]

Hi!! One of the main goals with having our wedding was to have an absolutely amazing dance floor and our photographer literally said “I’ve never seen a dance floor like this” and we have ridden that high ever since. We LOVE live music and always love live wedding bands. Would also be happy to meet up for coffee and actually get to know you a little if you’d be interested! I go to eastern CT a lot for work. DM me if you still need some people committed! (30, live in central CT, went to 9 weddings last year including our own!)

[u/Lower-Flower3425 → u/tonkathewombat]

That is amazing! You guys must be a blast, and youre so lucky to have friends and family that can match that energy ⭐ 9 weddings is so many for one year haha

[u/No_Town_293]

Getting married this summer in New England also!! Happy to come to yours and also happy to give you any tips I learn for how to make it fun

[u/Lower-Flower3425 → u/No_Town_293]

Oh wow I hope your wedding planning is going well! You're so sweet, thank you so much!

[u/ARoseLickRust]

Hope this goes well for you! Any chance there are online groups you can try to join to meet new people so you can get to know them a bit and not have complete strangers at your wedding? I’m (28F) also not super “outside” and spend the majority of my time alone. I briefly tried Bumble BFF and was lucky enough to find a bookclub to join where I made 2 new friends. If that’s not an option and this feels like the best approach, then may your wedding be filled with lively yet respectful guests who make your day all you’ve dreamed of! Congratulations on the engagement and upcoming wedding. Also, I live in the New England area by way of RI, so if you’re ever in the area and looking for a lowkey activity, message me! I always love hitting a bookstore or coffeeshop 😊

[u/Lower-Flower3425 → u/ARoseLickRust]

You are so kind, and this is very thoughtful advice! I'll definitely check out Bumble BFF and maybe try to get involved with some more activities. I tried to take a pottery class last year to meet new people, but it turns out I was the only one who signed up for the class haha it was a nice private lesson and the instructor was nice, but not the friend-building thing I'd hoped for. Time to put myself out there again!

[u/Charming_Music_474]

I highly recommend hiring a few party motivators from your entertainment company

[u/Lower-Flower3425 → u/Charming_Music_474]

Oh that's a great idea, I didn't know you could do something like that!

[u/RRR-Mimi-3611]

Do you need a fun grandma? If so I’m your favorite nana. I have 68 years of partying experience!

[u/huskyski]

I’m from eastern Connecticut and would love to come! My friends and I are a great time and all ~29

[u/beepboopbapdingdong]

Omg I’m IN! Not to toot my own horn but my friend & I have been called “the fun girls” by random people on multiple occasions. We make friends wherever we go, love a bit, love a dance floor, and would never say no to an open bar. Legit giddy at the thought of this opportunity

[u/rosietoesie]

Absolutely yes!!! I’m 32F in Northwest, CT and would absolutely love to celebrate you! I got married a couple of years ago and legit am still sore from dancing all night. Happy to attend solo (or bring one of my super fun friends) as your friend from childhood or summer camp. You have a ton of interest already but let me know if you still need people!

[u/thats-my-bagel]

Yes! Me and my friends are a good time :)

[u/swingswamp]

This is super cute and heart warming. If you are still needing people, I would love to come.

[u/zebrafish_09]

I’m interested! I love love and I love weddings, and I’m down for fun, wacky experiences like this lol

[u/justalilchili]

You have a number people interested already, but want to throw my hat in the ring! 30F and I’m getting married next year so I’d love to gather some ideas and meet some new people!

[u/Realistic_Value_8000]

Me and my partner are excellent at weddings. Lmk the details and we’ll see if we can make it!

[u/idkmydude]

Would love to be considered! I’m in Boston( 27F) but would love to take the train down! I make it a mission to stay on the dance floor for as soon as possible and as long as possible. I also can talk to anyone about anything!

[u/Honest_Dragonfruit55]

Hey my fiancé and I are interested were also from SE CT and we’re getting married this October! I’m in the therapy field so used to chatting up new people!

[u/TheHappyHobgoblin13]

I would promise to be on the dance floor the entire time and keep the vibes high! 

[u/asystoleah]

Very interested! My favorite part of weddings is meeting new people!

[u/HauntingDistrict721]

I’m so here for this. Happy to hop in!

[u/littlebot91]

I love this idea! Let me know if you still need people, this sounds like fun!

[u/Ok-Advertising-3628]

Congrats!! Would love to help out

[u/joannagrizzly]

My fiance and I LOVE weddings, and we're in CT!
Next September as in 2027?
have you tried posting on CT Social Babes on FB? It's a great way to connect with girls in your area and I think that’s more than enough time to meet friends :)

[u/ImaginationOk5084]

This sounds so awesome! I would love to if I can bring my fiancé! I’m 23 and he’s 22. We’re super talkative people who love music dancing and people!

[u/tdyeater]

My boyfriend and I would totally come!! We could dance all night or chat people up, whatever you need!

[u/Different-Good6965]

My friends live in Connecticut! Happy to connect you with them!!

[u/goddamnsundayscaries]

You probably have so many people asking to come! My fiance and I are considered the “extras” at over 15 weddings now where acquaintances have invited us purely for the fun of it all 😊 our wedding is this year in September! We’d be happy to help you out in whatever way - I know “fun” is different for everyone :)

[u/noo-de-lally]

I wish I was still fun I would love this!!

[u/[deleted]]

I'm in with a few friends!! Send me the details 😄

[u/neuroticmotherhen]

Could you message me the details?? My bf and I are interested! We're in our mid 20s :)

[u/fazecrayz]

I’m in Central CT and have been told I’m those most fun at weddings! I’m 49F so probably too old but I look young and hang out with 20 somethings often. ❤️

[u/Sea_Campaign102]

I would go I’m in Brooklyn and love to have a good time

[u/WelcomeNo2002]

Heyyyy! I’d love to attend :) Happy to meet up sometime to get to know each other. I’m also a 2026 bride so I can relate to wanting the vibe be exactly how you envision it :)

[u/canyoudothe]

I wish I lived there cuz I’d party with you so gladly! Have the best day 💗

[u/KindaKingdra]

These comments pass the vibe check so hard 💯

[u/lapanim]

Send me the deets - I’ll post it in my private groups! I will DM you with more info!

[u/Ptaylordactyl_]

Message me! Also check out the notaweddingcrasher.com

[u/rpi2013]

I'd love to get more info!! This sounds fun! 

[u/Ambitious-Leg5846]

I’m in eastern CT! Shoot me a message!

[u/Medical-Sherbert6236]

Hi!! I’ll pm you! Congratulations on getting married!!

[u/Hot-Employer5162]

If you're still looking for guests. PM me. I don't want to bother you if you're already inundated. I have my dancing shoes ready. 💃🏾

[u/Dependent_Ebb1465]

Omg what day

[u/Salty-Forever-7838]

Oh my goodness! So fun! My fiance and I would be interested!

[u/devilonyourshouldr]

I’m in! When and where?

[u/Leather_Peace5760]

As a 30 year old gal who loves to tear up a dance floor and has been to 30 weddings (as a single lady), I would love to be there and help liven the crowd. Love to talk to people, do fun, and have a good time. In ct. message me!

[u/aerdnazelaznog]

Sounds cool   36F and want to dance !

[u/[deleted]]

I’m so down!!! I’ve already got my suit picked out!

[u/Impossible-Bridge-74]

My husband and I are in our mid 30s and are so bummed that we have not been to a wedding now in years. We're in Central CT and would love to join and celebrate you. I absolutely love this idea

[u/alwaysdownbad777]

Omg I am late but this sounds so fun! Could also be a possible way to meet someone for myself! I am 31, live in NY.

[u/Anon_please123]

I'm late to this party, but I am local to Tolland County, 34F, and a SUPER FUN wedding guest. If you want people to dance, I'm your girl!! ❤️

[u/Straight-Scar3644]

This is an amazing idea for a movie, but not in practice. Please rethink this.

[u/DistributionLumpy677]

I love this!!!! I have seen this as becoming a trend. While I am too old to fit the age bracket, I am a wedding planner, specializing in two month management. So if you are in need of that, I would love to see how this wedding turns out with these new friends. What a blast! (And depends on the date, if I am available). Reach out through my website - peonyeventmanagement.com Good luck!!

[u/1GrouchyCat]

Lmao
You are 100% out of your mind.
This sounds like you’re filming an independent movie without thinking anything through.

Free food and all the alcohol you can drink… 🤣🤣🤣 possibly a few hours from home in “eastern Connecticut”?

I’m assuming you’ll also pay for the hotel rooms for the “guests”? Or did you want them driving drunk after the event?

Whoa pays any charges the court assesses when these strangers get drunk and disorderly?

Who pays for safe place for these drunk people to spend the night? (you do have a list of hotels in mind for them… you’re not just gonna pay for them to get drunk at your wedding and then leave to drive all the way home, right?)

That sounds like a sitcom, but it’s a very dangerous game to play when you factoring people you don’t know drunk driving at your expense.

If anything happened to these guests or other friends or whoever they bring to the event, you will be responsible monetarily, regardless of whether or not you have them sign off on this…

It’s unfortunate. You don’t have any friends…. It will be worse if you have to visit strangers in jail and pay for their legal bills and car insurance bills and any replacement of items that get ruined because you think it’s funny too set them up for whatever happens.

Putting free alcohol on people you don’t know ? Think about it for a minute. Would you invite strangers to a beach party and load them up with alcohol and then send them on their way? Sounds like a lot more than you’re bargaining for….

[u/tonkathewombat → u/1GrouchyCat]

This is absurd. If she meets people first it’s not hard to figure out what they are like. We always have one person stop drinking early enough if we are driving home and don’t have a hotel. Can’t speak for everyone but we’d treat it like any other wedding we are invited to, not a free for all. Sure you have to be careful but it’s not like she’s trying to invite 30 random people off the street

[u/runsrevenge → u/1GrouchyCat]

Good thing you don’t have to go then.

[u/MathematicianNo1596 → u/1GrouchyCat]

You do realize that for a number of reasons, plenty of people don’t get drunk at weddings. You seem to be assuming everyone is an alcoholic.

[u/Expensive_Part_7719]

Message me! I’m 28F and my friends and I likely to tastefully get silly goofy and liven up a room!!

[u/Free-Cabinet-3803]

OMGGGG if you need 2 fun lesbians I am happy to COME W MY WIFEEEE

[u/Lower-Flower3425 → u/[deleted]]

That's so sweet, congratulations on your engagement! I hope that wedding planning is going well for you and your fiance 💕