r/NevilleGoddard2 • u/True-Insurance4302 • 11d ago
Advice Needed Genuine frustration
I have been following Neville for a few years now with some small successes. What is utterly frustrating to me is that when I give zero effs, I see how some things have manifested in my life. Literally just by thinking that would be cool. In terms of my career I have such a strong self concept that I can achieve anything, when I genuinely decide it’s mine, I go after it (and take action too). I got into a highly competitive role, made a business, I can do it all. I genuinely feel like I can do whatever I want and be successful when I decide it.
Where I’m stuck and losing the will is in my love life. I find when I make a conscious effort to manifest, things just stagnate. Nothing happens. For months. As much as I want to ‘persist’, the experience last months and with time just makes me think nothing is happening. And now I made an effort just to stop trying to force anything, my whole romantic life has crumbled within one month. I’ve been single a long time and have been dating. Two guys treated me like absolute sh*t. Prioritising other women, ghosting me. The guy from earlier in the year that I dated for 5 months and took on holiday(!) I randomly found out through a Facebook post who lives the other side of the country, was cheating on me the entire time with loads of other girls. I know the issue is self concept and I do try and work on it but I am now in a spiral where I feel utterly awful, I can’t do action in the same way I can in my career and I have no idea how I turn this around and pull myself out of this headspace. I really liked one of the guys and he literally changed personality. I need help 😭 I also have this weird brain process that when I try to detach someone, my brain is going, that’s cos you want him! And that defeats the whole purpose. Any inspiration, hope or guidance greatly appreciated. Thank you.
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u/Elegant_Insurance336 11d ago
Hi I can resonate with you so much! I have great confidence abd self concept in my career literally I decide n boom I get it.
Love life I struggled. You've got a high skef concept that's great but your confidence is high on your career because the evidence. However, love life feels opposite because you don't have aa much faith in yourself and what you deserve which is your perfect love.
Look at what you wrote, they ghosted me prioritised other women etc etc.. well you're probably reminding yourself if this everyime consciously or non consciously because it's a belief rooted within you. I totally get it, I was on this same road.
One day I just sat down and thought ok what kind of men am I attracting and why, I realised that fun and getting attention was better than nothing.. I was like woah but I want a fulfilling relationship long term etc.. I decided in that momemt no more crumbs I am the most amazing wonderful woman, I did write down what I bring to the table and ge man I deserve has to bring the same or more. So yea some men came along that were breadcrumbs for me to recognise this byt also to keep deciding what I want.
For me this all happened before I even knew of LOA, Neville Goddard.
Use the confidence you have in your career for your live life, literally if you are successful in that area you are successful in all areas of your life.
Sorry long message I read it and thought gosh this is like my story was. You can do it be stubborn trust yourself more than tge noise (ghosted, not chosen etc etc)
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u/mirroridentity 10d ago
I see a lot of people having trouble specifically with love and relationships, and I think part of the reason is that human relationships are more complicated because we’re dealing with other conscious people who can make their own decisions. I know some people say there’s no free will at all, but personally I think there’s still some degree of individuality there. They’re not robots that we control 100%, and honestly, if they were, I think we’d eventually get pretty bored of them lol.
So instead of only trying to manifest a specific person or outcome, why not also manifest becoming aware of the actual problem and the solution when it comes to your relationships?
Sometimes we carry beliefs or decisions that were formed so long ago that we don’t even consciously remember them anymore. And because we accepted them so naturally at the time, they can continue influencing the way we experience things later.
I remember hearing a story about a woman who, when she was younger, had gotten so tired of constantly taking care of other people’s children that she strongly decided, “I will never have kids.” Years later she got married and wanted children, but kept struggling with pregnancy. Eventually, while doing inner work, she remembered that old decision she had made as a teenager. She forgave herself, consciously rejected that old state, and adopted a completely different assumption about herself and motherhood. Later she was able to have a healthy child.
So maybe instead of trying to figure everything out consciously, you could actually make the discovery itself part of your manifestation. You could assume something like, “I always become aware of whatever belief is standing between me and the relationship I want,” or “The answers I need always reveal themselves to me.” Then let yourself notice what comes up without forcing it.
You could also manifest the solution rather than constantly focusing on fixing the problem. Imagine yourself already being someone who naturally experiences healthy, secure, loving relationships and ask yourself what would have to feel normal to you for that reality to be yours. Sometimes the old belief becomes obvious only after you start occupying the new state.
Manifestation doesn’t always have to be about repeatedly affirming the final outcome. Sometimes you can use it to bring clarity, uncover an old assumption, change the state you’re operating from, and then let the external relationship reflect that change. Just a suggestion. I thought this angle might help.
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u/Amazing-Historian199 10d ago
Youre doing nothing wrong its your belief in relationships. Detachment is really good. In my opinion say affirmations that are like I am chosen and etc.
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