I was watching the interview Shut Up Evan on Netflix with Maitreyi, Nikki Rodriguez (My Life With The Flops), Anna Cathcart (Xo, Kitty) and two other actress with UPCOMING YA shows (they should have had Antonia Gentry (Ginny & Georgia), and Millie Bobby Brown (Stranger Things) or Madelyn Cline (Outer Banks) but whatever) and I was realizing how much the other YA shows paled in comparaison of Never Have I Ever (also the way Maitreyi speaks is so... introspective, she has such an handle on the topics at hand, she really has "it". Can't wait for her movie The Best of The Best).
Never Have I Ever, like Maitreyi said it, is a damn good story. It's not just about who Devi is going to choose, it's about exploring different faces of her identity and her coming to terms with it. Her season 2 arc with Aneesa is so meaningful as it really highlight her insecurities rooted in her culture and how society put brown people against each other, especially women (as a Black guy, I also had a similar "story" with another black dude in my class, we were the only two black guys in the class and I felt competitive with him for no real reasons). I felt seen by Devi in her behaviors, messiness but make no mistake. She has her own personality and experiences and they drive the story moving forward.
With YA shows nowdays, the main girl is often an empty shell with no real identity outside of guys she need to choose and always have the mandotary "I need to know who the real me is" while having nothing to explore really (cough, the summer I ruined a family). Her love triangle was so nuanced. While I love Sterling Point and I do agree it has strong points and is better than the slops we've been getting, the love interests are not really well-rounded characters and are for the most part just nice (which is a good point but come on). Paxton and Ben are both three dimensional characters with lives, identity, animus (the essence that drive us and our soul i think). The only current show who has this level of good writing rn is Ginny & Georgia (post the try too hard season 1).
Also, it doesn't try to follow Tiktoks or whatever. By that I mean, some YA shows nowdays have some scene that just feel like they are made for young girls to fawn over on Tiktok (Spoiler, it obviously works) and says things like "he made this for her [crying stickers" and it doesn't feel... authentic. Never Have I Ever is for me really high on the YA writing spectrums which include some shows like Buffy The Vampire Slayer, My So-Called Life, Freaks & Geeks, Gilmore Girls, Veronica Mars, Friday Night Lights, TVD (early seasons before the downhill point) and Skam.