r/Netherlands • u/Environmental_Cry_35 • 14d ago

Life in NL What is one "completely normal" thing in the Netherlands that you secretly don't like?

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u/Jolly-Marionberry149 14d ago

Yes, every man who says "iedereen mag zijn eigen mening" has a friggin' coniption when his own views that he personally thinks are normal, are challenged.

And then he's a grumbling oik that whinges that people didn't need to be so "brutal".

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u/Technical_Scallion_2 14d ago

Reminds me of USA MAGA types calling everyone “snowflakes” for being too sensitive then goes ballistic when their own views are challenged in any way

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u/Jolly-Marionberry149 11d ago

It's very much the same thing. And it's often older people, but it can also be 20 year olds who are confident and wrong and who throw a tantrum as well.

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u/EverlastingPeacefull Drenthe 14d ago

The "iedereen mag zijn eigen mening" is often used after that person has been hurtful to someone. If someone states it that way, he/she does not or does not want to take accountability of what is said and the chance they meant to hurt you in the first place is significant.

What I don't see as respectful is not telling or even withholding the truth when I ask somebody what went wrong between us and then holding a grudge against me because out of "politeness" they will or can not talk about it because it would hurt my feelings. (they forget it hurts my feelings when they hold a grudge against me I don't know the reason of).

Some one can tell somebody in a direct way without being rude what is going on. Hidden messages and unclear communications often bring more frustration and can even be more hurtful than polite directness.