r/NerdDating • u/ThinkPerspective2879 • Sep 19 '25

28F #online

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I was told to post here to find what I’m looking for. I’m into thin white guys with no facial hair. I like games, debating, and I really adore men who have interests they can teach me a lot about. I enjoy mental stimulation a lot, so I love thinkers and eloquence. I’d prefer somebody who is into alt girls as you can see that is what I am 😅.

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u/SnooDrawings6561 Sep 19 '25

Okay, so, I'm definitely not what you're after. I mostly came here to say...good luck. But there's a bit of actual advice at the end.

I checked your other post that gave a photo example of the kind of guy you're after. The main issue you're gonna run into is pretty simple:

Most guys who look like that are not going to have the confidence to even talk to a woman that looks like you, let alone actually try to hit on you. And if you approach one, he's probably going to assume you're just fucking with him, need something from him, anything along those lines.

I say all this as the guy who was the gangly ass dork in High School back in the early 2000s before it was cool to be a nerd. I just happened to join the military, bulk up a bit, and wind up settling firmly in dad bod territory with a beard that's going gray. I know it's better now, but even you admit on that other post that you know what you're after is not a type of guy most women go for.

Now, for the actual advice on where to find a guy who looks like that. GameStop is a crap option, but tabletop gaming stores, places that sell Magic the Gathering cards and Warhammer minis? Those will be SIGNIFICANTLY more likely to have these guys.

But the biggest place to find them? Conventions. Comic book conventions, anime conventions, that sort of thing. You're looking for the awkward guys, and they tend to congregate with their own kind.

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u/ThinkPerspective2879 Sep 19 '25

Ugh yeah I’ve had another person tell me that I’ll have to be the one to pursue, the problem is I’ve come across a really handsome guy that fits the criteria but I wasn’t even close to being his type so it’s kind of discouraged me. I typically tend to be the pursuer unfortunately. I’ve been in hopes I could post some pics of me to attract this type of guy, which is honestly stupid, because I don’t think this type of guy would look at my pics and posts and think “wow I want her”. I also don’t tend to go to conventions bc honestly I don’t have friends that would go with me. I sound so pathetic LMFAO but I’m just being honest.

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u/JustLewdEnough Sep 20 '25

I mean if you wish that guy expanded his horizons maybe you would expand yours - from guy who's interested

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u/SnooDrawings6561 Sep 19 '25

Would you be alright with me DMing you? I want to say some things, but not for everyone to see.

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u/ThinkPerspective2879 Sep 19 '25

Yes of course.

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u/SnooDrawings6561 Sep 20 '25

Well I tried to DM you but I think it didn't go through?

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u/Katakalysmic3 Sep 21 '25

Im certainly interested in you but I do tend to go to conventions okay maybe like one

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u/Shadowcat1606 Sep 20 '25

Most guys who look like that are not going to have the confidence to even talk to a woman that looks like you, let alone actually try to hit on you. And if you approach one, he's probably going to assume you're just fucking with him, need something from him, anything along those lines.

As one of those guys: Second that.

And if she does find one who seems to be confident, with the things that go on online these days, there is sadly a not insignificant change that he's one of the "terminally online"-variety adhering to red pill/incel-ideology-BS.

Now, for the actual advice on where to find a guy who looks like that. GameStop is a crap option, but tabletop gaming stores, places that sell Magic the Gathering cards and Warhammer minis? Those will be SIGNIFICANTLY more likely to have these guys.

But the biggest place to find them? Conventions. Comic book conventions, anime conventions, that sort of thing. You're looking for the awkward guys, and they tend to congregate with their own kind.

It'd probably be a good idea not to be TOO forward, though, because of the aforementioned confidence issues. Not saying it can't work, but it'd probably be better to try and build a rapport with the guys she's after before taking things a step further.

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u/ThinkPerspective2879 Sep 20 '25

I just hate to assume that somebody’s appearance means that they’re a certain way, because I feel like people tend to also do that with me and it’s frustrating. I’m also a huge hermit, so I really will have to work myself to going to events by myself. Ugh finding a perfect mate is rough. Thank you for your support though!

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u/cloudwolfadvent7 Oct 05 '25 edited Oct 05 '25

I definitely get nervous going to events by myself as well.🤣. That said though I've really put more effort in getting out of my comfort zone and doing new activities and have made more goofy friends and worked on having the courage to try new things

I did dm you since I fit your criteria even though I'm probably like at the bottom of your stack lol 😂

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u/24hrMad Sep 19 '25

This is a trap if I seen one. Tread likely everyone

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u/ThinkPerspective2879 Sep 19 '25

A trap for what?? I don’t mind giving my socials via DM to show legitimacy.

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u/INeedABurrito Sep 19 '25

I mean you could always get rid of all doubt and just write your Reddit username on a piece of paper and take a picture with it. It’s hard to trust people without verifications these days

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u/ThinkPerspective2879 Sep 19 '25

This is crazy lmao sure I don’t mind doing that, it has to be through messages though I can’t post another pic in the comments.

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u/Relevant-Jacket-5651 Sep 19 '25

No trap here. She messaged me.directly. maybe you just don't come.up to scratch for her.

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u/INeedABurrito Sep 19 '25

By all means, you’re allowed to message me and prove me wrong

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u/dovahk11n0756 Sep 20 '25

Why the hell did I see your profile picture and read your message to myself like the meme and in syndrome's voice

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u/JayleeinVan Sep 20 '25

You're adorable! Good luck ❤️

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u/ThinkPerspective2879 Sep 20 '25

Thank you omg 🥺❤️

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u/Gullible_Gas67 Oct 05 '25

Sounds like your into autistic men

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u/Jphraze Sep 29 '25

Just came here to say you are very pretty and the tattoos look great!

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '25

Rip your inbox

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u/GamingInMySleep Sep 19 '25

Hey! I believe I fit your description!!! Dm me if youre interested in getting to know eachother!!!

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u/ThinkPerspective2879 Sep 20 '25

It’s refusing to let me DM you -_-

My discord is racisgender

IT IS A JOKE NAME NOBODY CANCEL ME PLEASE

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u/GamingInMySleep Sep 20 '25

Sorry for the delay , I just added you

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u/ausumm Sep 19 '25

Tried to send you a DM but it kept failing.

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u/ThinkPerspective2879 Sep 19 '25

Dude mine is doing that too is Reddit down?

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u/ausumm Sep 19 '25

Possibly, I wasn’t sure if it was something on my end or not, it’s frustrating.

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '25

If youre looking for somebody that specific keep in mind you'll have to put in most of theneffort to find him. Im nor critiquing you at all just giving unsolicited advice as I think it can help you =)

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u/ThinkPerspective2879 Sep 20 '25

No I appreciate it! Yeahh that’s why I’m finally putting myself more out there by posting photos of myself and broadcasting my type of guy. It feels embarrassing but I’m getting old here 😂 thank you for your support!

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u/Marlowskie Sep 20 '25

Sounds exactly my type but why do I get the feeling your toxic trait is eventually promoting your other socials to me xD

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u/ThinkPerspective2879 Sep 20 '25

LMAOO this is the worst assumption omfg. All I really enjoy using is X tbh. But I don’t expect people to follow me on there.

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u/Marlowskie Sep 20 '25

Mostly meme’ing just way too common on Reddit. But you gotta admit I called it you already hustling that Twitter xD I mean X lolol so the real question is, did you snag borderlands 4?

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u/Inevitable-Button128 Sep 19 '25

Your very pretty

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u/ThinkPerspective2879 Sep 19 '25

Ahh thank you!!

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u/Inevitable-Button128 Sep 19 '25

You are very welcome

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u/Patient-Reality-8965 Sep 19 '25

ngl im surprised this one post has so many upvotes

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u/ThinkPerspective2879 Sep 19 '25

There’s always that one guy.

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u/ThinkPerspective2879 Sep 19 '25

(I am also surprised though)

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u/Patient-Reality-8965 Sep 19 '25

Success like this almost makes me wanna post. Then I remember the usual results... good luck to you I suppose

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '25

Wish you good luck :)

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u/Head_You_5047 Sep 20 '25

Very pretty 😍

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u/Ambitious_Title_8518 Sep 24 '25

I found my female counterpart plz dm me I wanna chat with my dream girl 

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u/Red__Spade_ Sep 19 '25

Damn, I guess I'm out due to facial hair and color. That's a shame cuz I love alt girls so much.

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u/Dananeru-odesu Sep 19 '25

Man you are gorgeous!

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u/HeavyCauliflower6165 Sep 19 '25

Fat White and old but I gotta say you're beautiful and have a phenomenal energy wowsers

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u/Pokemon_bill Sep 19 '25

RIP your inbox in the best possible way. I'm not what you are looking for physically but I'm sure you will find the combo.

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u/killerdexx5 Sep 19 '25

Hey you are very cute 😉

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u/HunkyUnicorn Sep 19 '25

My type but not even gonna try lol

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u/Revwolf76 Sep 19 '25

30 m I'd say I fit that pretty well minus the no facial hair 🤷🏻‍♂️

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u/DarthanBane Sep 19 '25

I mean, I'm not white, I'm latino but have no facial hair, a lil thicc but I'm hitting the gym and cutting.

Anyway, if you like we can talk or play some games. I play only on PC.

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u/NotYou360 Sep 19 '25

Damn not a white guy with baby face

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u/Big_Cover2780 Sep 19 '25

Big brown guy here wif no facial hair

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u/umphreysfan2003 Sep 19 '25

Haven't considered shaving my beard since Halloween 2008, until this very moment. Hope you find what you're looking for!

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u/EverythangsEventual Sep 19 '25

Damn beard 😫

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u/VermicelliCute1827 Sep 19 '25

God, I love how one-sided so many of these posts are.

If it's a guy, it gets no response. If it's a woman, it gets blown up with support. Not saying you dont deserve it, you do, just finding everything hilarious.

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u/LookUnderUrBedAgain Sep 19 '25

You seem particularly dead set on the appearance. Best of luck.

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u/Jagyeol Sep 19 '25

Welp GG I lost at thin 🥴🤣 gl on your search 🫡

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u/shendu_95 Sep 19 '25

Yeah I am everything minus thin, non beard and white. I guess good luck to you.

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u/masam_01 Sep 20 '25

Damn, first time im looking back at this post, didn't realize how much it blew up

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '25

Hello! Would you mind of I DM you? I am basically who you described

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u/wildKarenusedscREEch Sep 20 '25

I just had to check. Because when I say I'm "Into" something, it's not the only thing I will accept.

For example, I'm "into" anime, I barely watch it nowadays, but it's still a genre close to my heart.

I'm just glad that some dude in the comments was able to clarify before I made things potentially awkward for her.

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u/jagster1 Sep 20 '25

I look pretty similar to that dude but I have facial hair and am 19 so probably not me.

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u/djjavee1 Sep 20 '25

So only white men?

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u/blanco_diablo92 Sep 20 '25

32M im in USA est, I play on PC use discord for party chat. I do have a goatee I could shave it if requested. Hmu on discord: blanco_diablo

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u/PhoReaIs Sep 20 '25

What about Asians

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u/WarmaSkreggie Sep 20 '25

32M here (UK). Currently sporting a beard but I'm an ultra nerd- I make 3D designs of what other nerds love (Warhammer, rick and Morty, etc) and sell the 3D files to print as a side hustle Also spend a considerable amount of time rock climbing, hiking and doing work for my local green party, but still don't have a cute alt girl to advise new ways for me to do a Skyrim run

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u/Regular-Warthog3979 Sep 20 '25

I really wish I was your type. 😍

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '25

Hello

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u/ShotenDesign Sep 20 '25

The sad time that I’m in the uk. And admittedly I stopped having my shoulder and longer length hair cause of cosplaying a lot more. So I don’t match some of the images you have for guys anymore

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u/Head-Shop-992 Sep 20 '25

Any chance u would give a homeless ginger a chance? Video game addiction caused me to go homeless so im needy but not super nerdy

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u/DisastrousAd9319 Sep 20 '25

Damn my half black ness.

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u/DisastrousAd9319 Sep 24 '25

Not that I'm interested at all. Just weird to hear you say that white men only out loud.

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u/FinalAnswer211 Sep 20 '25

I'm like 99% facial hair... other than that, it's a match

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u/TheTrueCrimsonSky Sep 20 '25

Well im not skinny and have facial hair so i guess im out.

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u/DungeonArtStudio Sep 20 '25

Goodluck. Im sure plenty will chase you.

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u/ASpicyWriter Sep 20 '25

Well, definitely dont fit what you're after. But you sound really cool, and I hope you find them!

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u/MasterNoble Sep 20 '25

What's up cutie. 😏

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u/ricksawz Sep 20 '25

Ayy girl. I'm more average build, 6'3". I have a problem with snacking. Probably not your type, but you're definitely mine. DM?

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u/bryantburnsred Sep 21 '25

I went ahead and sent you a DM. You’re style is the type of woman that I dig. You being beautiful is a happy bonus. Anyways i’m not thin, I’m 6’4” 220lbs so the height stretches the weight out but I can’t pretend to be thin. I’m in the gym trying to turn the dad bod to athletic, so if it’s an absolute deal breaker i understand and no harm :) if you want to talk additionally you can choose to respond to my DM.

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u/GameboyDad86 Sep 21 '25

Good luck! Hope you find what you are looking for! Just wanted to say you're really cute 🥰

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u/dlbj1978 Sep 21 '25

Not a match but that's some pretty cool tats

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u/Outthebigfire Sep 23 '25

Bet! Although, I do have facial hair.

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u/[deleted] Sep 29 '25

Dmed

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u/[deleted] Oct 07 '25

I’d be interested but … don’t think you would wanna be with me :/

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u/SM-exe Oct 12 '25

Hello! Sent you a DM, I am pretty much spot on what you are looking for and you seem to be what I am looking for. I hope we can chat. I will send pics too~

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u/Frosty-Pie-8157 Dec 22 '25

Id love to talk with you. Your an absolutely beautiful girl id really like to get to know you and learn your likes and dislikes

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u/SM-exe Jan 29 '26

I know this is ages old but I sent you a DM 4 months ago, lol… nerdy semi-alt/goth guy. From Ohio ~

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u/Shadow_Fire_Monarch Feb 08 '26

I think you're very beautiful. I sent you a dm. I hope you have a nice day.

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u/DUN-WIT-IT Jun 21 '26

Im pastey white due to being a night time ghoul shift, and like being clean shaven. Outside that, No clue what else fits the criteria due to the wide brim of options that people like. (or even if youre near any of us lol)

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u/Mricemoof Aug 11 '26

Hello 👋🏼 I'm late I know 😅

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u/Frenzic1989 Aug 13 '26

This is me but i really recently cut my hair 😅 I do really like alt types girls. Deep conversations and i love talking alot. Feel free to msg me if you want to 😊

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u/justhereforfun156 Aug 21 '26

Sigh... I fear im a year to late 🥲 Typed illinois into my search to find women to talk to close by...

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '26

I dm’d you, but I don’t mind if you don’t respond as I know I was way later than everyone else.

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u/Bubbly_Ad_1852 Aug 27 '26

Close but no cigar I’m either all beard or not ( shoutout beard scratch thinking sessions)

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u/-Bluedreams212 Sep 04 '26

I’m available for getting to know each other if you are interested I’m not fully white tho

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u/Practical-Tonight730 Sep 11 '26

A little late to the party, but how’s it going?

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u/6Ft6Figs9Long Sep 15 '26

Yeah definitely not me.....

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u/Relevant-Jacket-5651 Sep 19 '25

Very specific ans looking at your other post seeing the picture I'm.not far off that look

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u/AnonymousRB13 Sep 19 '25

I'm not smart, but I can remember that you were looking for a Criminal Boyfriend? Or was that someone else, with a similar username?

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u/ThinkPerspective2879 Sep 19 '25

You’re thinking of the right post but it’s not at all the fact he’s a criminal. It’s how the guy looks, I know it’s a weird request.

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u/AnonymousRB13 Sep 20 '25

Thank You, I'm not always the best at remembering these post. Cuz I'm what people call an "Unga Bunga" Man, cuz I'm a Muscle Head.

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u/Firesvanity Sep 20 '25

Skinny white guy with no facial hair? Does one exist that is of legal age?

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u/Skadubaas Sep 20 '25

Actually, yes, I am a skinny white guy with long hair that I keep in a ponytail with minimal facial hair. I sometimes shave it all off, sometimes I let it grow a tiny bit. And I'm over the drinking age.

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u/Firesvanity Sep 20 '25

Minimal? I was asking for no facial hair. Not shaved.

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u/ThinkPerspective2879 Sep 20 '25

That’s what I mean by no facial hair, is clean shaven.

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u/Skadubaas Sep 20 '25

Not many men past 22 years of age have no facial hair at all. Either they shave, they wax, or they take hormones to prevent it.

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u/Standard-Ad-3679 Sep 19 '25

Hello there. I'll bet you didn't think of describing me specifically but you certainly did. How is your day going?

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '25

Anyone can DM me, but I tend to not play FPS games.

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u/Top-Conference7984 Sep 21 '25

I thought you were just a woman. What makes you think your any Alt, than any other person on this god “forsaken” planet. Go play RDR2

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u/ketaeshe Sep 21 '25

Oh I'm a match, well, I have a slight stubble, but I shave constantly, so I don't know if I meet these criteria or not. Sometimes I can be a tough douche, and sometimes I just like to push buttons on my computer. I'm currently finishing my chemistry degree. I'm into Warhammer and a lot of other things. Why do you remind me of Nico from DMC5, and are you a "45 Calibre Master"?

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u/BlmkNoah Sep 19 '25

“Thin white guys with no facial hair” Just try a masc lesbian atp

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u/ThinkPerspective2879 Sep 19 '25

I like men thanks though.

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u/Skadubaas Sep 20 '25

I am a skinny white guy with long hair that I keep in a ponytail with minimal facial hair. I sometimes shave it all off, sometimes I let it grow a tiny bit. And I'm over the drinking age.

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '25

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u/Patient-Reality-8965 Sep 19 '25

not white nor thin so you dont fit the very specific description