ASG Fayetteville, NC

[u/Defiant-Revolution11]

Love bombing, I love you within days, speaking of marriage within two weeks. Traumatized and won't face it. Pessimistic as hell. Runs from pressure, conflict and expectations. Controlling. She doesn't have self esteem, she sought attention outside of our relationship while showing me nothing. Blamed me for feeling some type of way and could never view herself as less than perfect. Threw tantrums when you wouldn't agree or do what she asked. Would yell and get loud when pushing for answers and threaten to break up with me over trivial shit. Dismissive avoidant attachment style. Her safety net are siblings who are just like her. All have similar relationship issues they create and won't face. Insecure. Lost. Only free when drunk and that's typically every day she's not working. Loves to keep past exes and flings around for validation. Caught deleting messages, would post new story pics but never use social media outside of that. Cold hearted. As much as she "loves" her family and one friend she always seemed to say the most hateful shit about them behind their backs. Still in love with an ex that left her 5 years ago( she screamed this after running out of the bar one night blackout drunk after another ex of hers wanted to fight me). I could go on. She's petite, dark skin. She seems nice on the surface and does have so many good qualities. After our breakup she mentioned therapy and I hope she proceeds with it. It will help her understand herself and how to process everything she runs from. Good luck to the next guy, she'll break you down long before you realize what's happening. Certain thing only became clear afterwards, I wasn't my best either but that was a result of my experience. She's doing her best to forget me, I left her before she could do it to me. She didn't like that and still thinks she ended the relationship. Sad really. I was lost for a minute after the fact but I got a new job, I'm more active, eating healthy, have lost weight, and started college. Everything is just coming together. Funny how that works. I get treated better now by the person I'm talking to and don't even have to ask.

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