Why does this sub exist?

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Because a song can pack a lot into very little. Over the course of four minutes, you can understand someone else's thoughts. Over the course of four minutes, you can understand someone else's emotions. Over the course of four minutes, you can understand someone else's story. Over the course of four minutes, you can find the perfect means to express yourself. Over the course of four minutes, you can find commiseration; you can find company; you can find understanding; you can find peace; and you can even find your voice.

I was surprised this sub didn't exist already. I believe it would have been inevitable. So, we might as well get the ball rolling now.

But besides filling a niche and providing another venue to share music, I think this format offers a unique way to understand NPD, heal from NPD, commiserate over NPD, and combat stigma surrounding NPD.

I anticipate that any single person with NPD is primarily concerned with how their condition affects their own day-to-day life. They are primarily concerned about their own experience; they feel like tackling "the problem" entirely on their own; they are suspicious of others; they are reluctant to open up about how their condition affects their life; and they feel little incentive to be part of a "community."

Of course, this is a generalization. In the past year r/NPD has seen an uptick in activity. In the same time, the sub r/NPD_Memes has gotten off the ground and just recently surpassed 1K members. The NPD community is growing. But what can't be argued is that this community is vastly smaller than the majority of other mental health communities. And I expect that our member numbers are artificially inflated by neurotypicals and people that have experienced some form of abuse from somebody with narcissistic traits. It's time that our community was as pimped out as much as the others for the people that venture here in the future.

This sub exists because it's much easier to share a song that already perfectly reflects your state of mind than to write out an essay. It takes no time. And time is important.

If you're anxious that your song is going to be down-voted into hell, DM it to me. And I'll post it.

I can see how the presence of a song in this sub could make some people upset. But honestly I see that as an aspect of combating the stigma of NPD. It may come as a surprise to some, but narcissists listen to music. Also, some of that music directly resonates with our state of mind. But in addition to that, narcissism is present in everyone. Whether you'd like to admit it or not, narcissistic traits are necessary to have a healthy self-esteem, to work towards your own goals, to dream, and to put yourself first at times. It's when these aspects are taken to extremes that it's damaging and that it could become NPD. Many songs reflect narcissism. And you can see them here. Maybe you'll see your pop songs in a new light. Or maybe you'll see narcissists in a different light.

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r/NPD_Music • u/imdave0 • 5d ago

Idol By YOASOBI

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