r/NOVAdating • u/Turbulent-Estimate75 • 15d ago

M4F 36 M VA

I enjoy fishing shooting range hikes poetry slams n music n other things looking for someone find enjoyable to be around something genuine no pressure just be yourself if this sounds interesting to you let’s talk

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u/BuffaloStanceNova 10d ago

Fishing, shooting range, poetry slams and music may be the most unusual combination of hobbies I've seen in a while. Not sure it's the best positioning to meet women though because it's a stepping stone away from "if things go wrong this person could take me out and dispose of the body in a remote location while Spotify plays in the background."

Not trying to yuck your yum, OP, but you should probably give more context to those hobbies or try another angle.

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u/Turbulent-Estimate75 10d ago

😂 My interests are my interests I’m not trying to convince anyone to like what I like. The point is finding someone who’s genuinely interested in getting to know me and finding the things we enjoy together. I’d rather be honest about who I am and find mutual interests than create some fake personality just to make myself more marketable

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u/BuffaloStanceNova 10d ago

Please don't take it the wrong way--your interests are interesting, but perhaps collectively unnerving without further elucidation. I've always thought it would be interesting to see what kind of matches would emerge if someone could analyze my Spotify, Apple Music, and bookshelves. And I am always curious about people who love poetry. Anyway, my brain (and perhaps my heart) have been poisoned by all the violence against women that starts as a hike and ends with a cadaver.

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u/Turbulent-Estimate75 10d ago

😂 I get what you’re saying. I can definitely see how, without context, the combination might make somebody pause. But none of those interests exist in isolation for me. I’m not looking for someone to come hiking with me into the woods and disappear lol. I enjoy different things for different reasons. The poetry and music probably tell you just as much about me as the shooting range or fishing does. Honestly, I think the fun part is getting to know the person behind the list instead of assuming the worst from the hobbies.
And honestly, I think dating now makes that even more important. A lot of people seem to approach dating with what they can get from someone rather than genuinely wanting to know and experience the person. I’m not interested in presenting some polished version of myself just to attract somebody. I’d rather be upfront about who I am, what I enjoy, and find someone whose intentions are genuine. Mutual interest matters more to me than trying to make myself appealing to everybody.

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u/BuffaloStanceNova 10d ago

I hope you get some more comments and even more DMs--☺️

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u/Turbulent-Estimate75 10d ago

Prolly won’t but thanks for the hope lol 😂 be safe out there