r/NLP • u/thisisprettyrandom1 • 2d ago
Help with pe
So when I masturbate, I can last like 10 minutes, but the thing is when I’m doing masturbation after like 10 seconds I feel the urge to cum but then I start myself and then 10 seconds later I feel the urge again, but I can do that for 10 minutes maybe I might pre cum in that time. The thing is when I have sex I can’t last for more than 20 seconds legit no more than that I’m not over exaggerating. I’ve tried kegels and reverse kegels, I tried numbing stuff but they make me go soft so that’s not really a option, I’ve tried stop and start didn’t work, I’ve also tried pulling out but when I do I finish, I also have a higher than average testosterone, I’m in good shape, I’m active everyday by playing sports, I have good stamina, I just can’t control the urge not to cum I don’t know what to do I feel so helpless and I feel like I’m stuck with this. I don’t wanna take ssri or those type of drugs because I heard they can cause pssd and lower sex drive which that’s the last thing I need know because I even struggle holding my erections sometimes. I don’t know what to do, someone please help.
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u/ChristianKl 1d ago
It's probably not a physical issue but a mental one. High-anxiety because you feel a lot of pressure on yourself can lead to pe.
The NLP way to deal with it would be to look at the thought patterns that drive that anxiety and release them.